hi, I got married 3 yrs before and just 20days after my marriage i went to USA with my husband as he is working there. I have 3 sister-in-laws and i brother- in-law and all are elder than us and up course his parents . My husband belonged to a very poor family. So right after his job he spent all money in his 2 sister's marriage, now all are married, made house for his family, bought furniture, jewelery,bike, tv, fridge and so on. Even he gives money and very very costly gifts to his sisters as well. Actually his family is run my his brother and mother. He has nearly spent 8 yrs of his total earning on his family which will be cost more than 20lakhs. His brother does nothing and try to eat all of my husband's money. But right after our marriage i told my husband to spend money like this. But he did not listen me at all. Then i took one of his friend's help who then convinced him. Even i came to know that his brother and his wife did not want my husband to get married. Even my husband realize this and he knows that his family wants only money from him. But after marriage when i started saying against his family he takes his family side only. He says that whatever they ere saying thats right. As i am living abroad there expectation his high as well. I will fulfill all of their dream. Even they always want to keep my hubby in their hand. I can simply see that they are emotionally blackmailing him. My husband who is very clever, fails miserably in this area. All of his family member keep relationship only because of money. Every month we send money and fulfill all of their expectation. Even it is in my husband mind to make more house, car, shop etc etc for his family. More i am trying to detach him from his family more he is getting attracted to his family. Thinking to go india is a nightmare for me. I feel that when i go india my husband behaves me just like a stranger. He gives all of the importance to his family. Even his brother and bhabi are jealous to my kids. As a mother i have seen how they hate my kid. Even my bhabi she told me directly not to have more kids. When i heard this i was just shocked. I have been told that my husband can live me but not his family.But i think its useless to say to my husband because he will simply take their side. He always blame me and my family. He says that you are belonged to a bad family. You are a modern distracted lady. You don't know what the relationship is, etc etc. Sometimes i think am i really bad? Can i ever get rid of these problems? I am just helpless. Still i have faith that it's only 3yrs of my marriage. Day will come everything will be changed.