Pressure to start a family!

sdiva20 · Apr 20, 2013

Atta girl !!! Your aunt is very wise and you are a strong girl. Good for you. Love to see women not take crap from anyone especially the so called "well wishers" and make decisions that suit your life.

Your "excuses" were awesome....love it.....And you truly are EVIL

guesshoo said: ↑

Hi EPL,

Edit: My defenses
- Initially, I used to offend people who asked about a baby saying they were too old fashioned and I was too highly educated to leave my career.
- When mums started saying I could have a baby, hand it over to them and continue my career, I'd say, you've had your chance to raise your kids. When the time is right, I'd raise mine. I won't have anyone else raising my children. Anyone who wants to raise children can give birth to their own
- Retort that if you stress me more about this, I'll delay having a child just to spite you.
- When one family member said the older I got, the less chance I had of having a child, I said, in that case, I'll adopt when I'm good and ready. (I was serious about it)
- When people keep asking about "good news", I'd tell them about my promotion or the flat that I bought- Love this
- When the sets of parents ask about "good news", I'd just tell them as soooooon as it happens, we'd let you know.
- When other random people started their lectures, I'd look directly into their eyes and say, "We're trying." If they ask for details, I used to say "I don't want to talk about it" and change the topic. It gave the impression that something was wrong and the lecturer was too embarrassed to annoy us further about it.
- I nearly forgot. With parents pestering, gave serious look and asked them to double their prayers.

I'm sorry but I am irreverent and evil when people pester me for years and years
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shiltalks · Apr 20, 2013

Have a sad expression and then ask, "What makes you think we are not trying???!!" If that makes them pray harder for you, that's all for your good - after all, prayers never hurt anyone
I would also like to caution you on being blunt and straight forward with your ILs when they come to visit you in the US. It is to your credit that you prefer to be honest and say things straight, but unfortunately not everyone appreciates this behavior. Not saying that you should lie either - but if ILs do something you don't like or you need to do something they won't like, make sure that DH is the one talking to them about it. You sound like you have a very supportive husband, so make full use of him. If ILs criticise you for anything, always blame it on DH and say that he wanted it done in a particular way. Usually, ILs will not say anything to their DS, so you can play it safe.

EatPrayLove · Apr 20, 2013

guesshoo said: ↑

Edit: My defense
- When people keep asking about "good news", I'd tell them about my promotion or the flat that
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I just remembered!! A distant relative on MIL's side had the nerve to ask me if there was any 'visesham' (=special event = good news) weeks after our wedding!! We were having a boring conversation and she was doing most of the talking. I was half- listening, half-nodding and smiling o everything she was saying n had totally zoned out.. So when she asked me this question, I didn't realize what she meant actually.. I simply said, (facing away from her), "oh yes Aunty.. It was Amma's (mil) birthday yesterday. I made some laddoos. Would you like to have some?" Saying this, I turned around to look at her blank expression! epic moment it was! It was then that it struck me thankfully DH called me for something else and I got some much needed diversion