I am 25 years old and DH is 26, and we got married a year ago. We both live in the US and parents in India. Our India trip is on in less than a month now and there;s tremendous pressure from both sides to start a family. In-laws are visiting us for 4 months this summer too - so I am worried. It's an every day battle with my parents and in-laws have all along been subtly hinting. For the past couple weeks they have been strongly advising too! Heck, they consult a family astrologer for even the teeniest of problems. Now I respect this man (the astrologer), he is an elderly gentleman that have tons of respect for. He fixed our wedding date and everything but I hate that my IL's go to him even for the slightest of things. I was looking for a job for over a year after we got married (I gave my final exams for my MS after I got married) and have been working full time only for a few months now. They were bugging that gentleman all this time asking him when I would get a job! Now it's my FIL's 60th birthday (that's the reason for our India trip) so they are consulting him for auspicious times and things like that. That gentleman has asked FIL if he has heard any 'good news' from us yet. When FIL replied in negative, he was all contemplative and finally said, "Well, according to my calculations, my dates for their wedding, they must have conceived by now, if not a baby itself'. He had set 31, Mar 2013 as a deadline apparently. So he suggests there's some 'human interference' here otherwise his calculations never go wrong! Yeah, don't ask!! I was like, WTH. FIL tells me and DH all this over Skype and I was in desperate need of a hole to bury myself into! They blame us that we 'waste' money unnecessarily on trips and going to see places (do I sense jealousy here?) while we could save up all that money for our kid and 'focus' on having a kid!! So ladies - I seek help. I want to avoid this topic for a couple more years without sounding dis respective to my parents and in-laws. The only strategy that I have in mind is to smile, nod head and agree with them as long as possible to buy time and do what we both want.