Posh Relative Visiting

If you have a sign outside, she will obey it, that is a sign of true poshness. I am somebody who has always wished for clear rules. I need to know what the rules are before I walk into an environment. These days, where everybody is confused and one is meeting people from all walks of life, it is very difficult to know what to do. Clarity helps. I for one, would be shocked if somebody removed their shoes in my home and introduced me to the aroma of their smelly feet. Dirt is easier to get rid of than the traumatising olfactory memory of pungent feet.

Perhaps you can provide your cousin with some nice white slippers. Some people do not like to walk around with exposed feet in an alien environment. Good luck and let us know how the visit goes

 

Looks like d shoes r d problem here. Earlier I remember everyone taking off der shoes before entering into anyone's house. but now it's not like dat, Ppl mostly prefer to b wearing it. Our friends n us wear it most of d time. But dey or us always ask if it's ok to wear inside while entering. If they r not ok, we remove. Or if we r not ok, dey remove. whose ever house it Is, it's der call.

So it's definitely ur call. Plus u hav a sign board too. For this person, make sure u put d sign bang on d door so she 'surely' sees it. Or tell her sweetly. But since u r 100% sure she will mind n won't like takin off her shoes, offer her a new home slippers. It's clean for u n she still gets to wear a slipper. It's a win win for u n her.

 

If she ignores ir does not see the sign about removing the shoes then please have a new pair of soft house shoes/slippers ready for her to use and you can gently ask her to change into those slippers once inside the house. This will not sound rude too and also will give her an option to not walk barefoot which many people (including me ) don't like but I always carry my spare new slippers . If nothing else she can wear socks to avoid being barefoot. You just wait and watch this doesn't have to be first thing you say once she enters in the house. you can wait for 5-10 minutes and after causalities are over gently guide her if she hasn't removed shoes. I would suggest not to be biased based on someone else's comments May be she will behave in a total different way in your house. Welcome her with an open mind dear

 

Buy a new hawai chappal/flip flop ..Leave it near the door . As soon as the cousin walks in.taker her belongings..smile.. and as u walk towards the guest room ..tell her . "You might have forgotten to pack ur home slippers in all the hurry I have a new pair just for u..please do use them. Let me show u where to keep ur outside wear." This should do.

 

Guests should always be forewarned.

Let her know ahead of time that you require visitors to remove their shoes in your home. Ask if she would like you to provide house slippers. If yes, what size.

Some guests prefer not to take their shoes off at all. In that case, you can offer disposable shoe covers.

If the footwear issue is a deal breaker for both of you, you can offer to take her out for dinner.

The better option is to let it go, be mentally prepared that she may or may not take her shoes off. Relationships matter much more than a spotless carpet. You can always vacuum as soon as she leaves.

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Agree with Amica. It's one visit. If she keeps her footwear on in spite of the sign, let it slide!