please ladies.please read this and tell me the real fact.please..please..

Hi ladies,

I am not sure if I am posting this in the right forum.If this is an incorrect forum, kindly forgive me for my ignorance.

I have been reading IL forum for quite sometime now. I feel this is the right place to tell u all whats on my mind and I am sure u are the right people to give me the right kind of advice and solution to my confusions and thoughts..

Firstly, let me tell u about myself. I have been married for nearly 2 and half years now. I am having a happy married life with my husband. I have no issues at all. It is just sometime back that we thought its time to have a child.we have been trying for around 3 months now, since i have pcos its not so easy to conceive.anyways, my husband has no problems with that.he is very encouraging and he says not to worry and that we can surely have a child soon.i am also not much worrried about it but sometimes when i think of it, i feel sad and then i become ok.

Now, I will tell u my real problem. About a month back, in the month of april i heard about singer chitras daughter;s death and i was really sad after hearing the news.firstly because i like chitra a lot because she is a very nice person,secondly she is my favorite singer.then i also felt very sad for the kid. i just thought of the struggle that kid went through before the death(drowned in water)and i felt very sad for that too because that child was a mentally challenged kid with special needs.i even thought to myself why is god so cruel?why did he do this to that MC child.if it was normal kid,this would not have happened as that kid could have cried for help,this kid did not know to do all this and hence this kid suffered and died.i was thinking about this the whole day and felt depressed and sad.and also god gave chitra the kid after 15 years of marriage and took it back within 8 years.all these things made me upset.when my husband came back at 6 in the evening, i told him about this and even cried little.then my husband convinced me saying,it is all fate,we cannot do much about it.at that moment(in a very casual manner-sad tone),i told my husband, let god give that child to us.i never meant anything when i said that.it was all said in a very casual manner and both of us immediately forgot about it and we went out to the grocery store and all and came back.then that thing did not come to my mind at all.

It was again, just a few days back that i started thinking about what i said. and i really feel sad about what i said.i dont know what to do.i have heard all people in my native say like if we say anything casually or accidently, there are chances that it could happen(whether good or bad).so never say anything just like that.even i have seen it in my distant relatives place.my relatives brother had come home during his college vacations.while the college going brother was having his supper while going back to his hostel,the relative(the college boy's brother) told him to eat well as this is goin to be his last meal(he actually meant that it is going to be the last meal for this vacation because he will be coming back only after another 6 months or a year)and his brothers words came true.it was the last meal he had in his entire life.the boy died in an accident on the way back to the hostel.

All thse thoughts came to my mind all of sudden and i have lost my sleep completely.i do not know what to do.i am thinking whether, since i said let god give chitras child to me.will that really happen?will i get a mentally challenged child with special needs?will i also have a child very late in life?will my child also die like hers?i just spoke those words casually.i did not know that it will cause so much tensions and worries in my life. i am really upset.please my sisters,kindly tell me,is it true that sometimes what we say might happen?should i stop thinking about it?is there anything i can do or should do to prevent that from happening in my life?i amreally confused and worried.please tell me the real fact.please.i hop u all must be knowing about all this.so please dont say nothing because u feel u will hurt me.please say the real thing.please help me out.what should i do.i might sound really very stupid but i dont know what to do.please help.

 

Thanks Reni for the quick reply. Also thanks a lot for ur words. I am happy to read it. Ya I have forgotten the incident but i just could not forget what i said. It is disturbing me a lot. I jus hope and pray to God that everything happens good and nothing goes wrong.

 

Thanks Naanvetti(i like ur name ) and Orion for ur kind words and support.

 

Hi Soumedh,

Thanks a lot for ur kind words.. Yes, ur right.. I am a very sensitive person and take even small things very seriously... Even my husband advices me to think positive and leave all the negatives aside... Thanks once again....

Hi Sreema,

Thanks sooo soooo much for ur very kind words and advice.. May God bless u always... I was a bit depressed about the incident... I am getting over it... Yeah, my husband is also very supportive and he convinces me too saying nothing will happen... I have completed one Saptah of Sat Charitra.. .. As per ur advice, I will chant Sai Mantra... Please keep me in ur prayers.. Thanks once again...

Hi Mickeyminni,

Mini, thanks for ur words... Yes, ur right.. Actually I meant something else and when I said it, the meaning totally changed and I was a bit worried about tht... Hope all good happens... Thanks once again...

Thanks to each and everyone for ur kind words... God bless one and all...

Cheers!!!