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please help my life. my husband is very dominating and short tempered.

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by swarupajoshi, Oct 21, 2013.

  1. swarupajoshi

    swarupajoshi New IL'ite

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    hi all

    pls help me. i m married for past 1.5 yrs. my husband is very dominating and short tempered.
    he is mommas's boy.
    1 incident i'l elaborate where his mother is supporting him:
    i wanted to go to my mummy's place on friday and come back on sunday morning
    he forced me to come back by saturday eve itself for no reason.
    he called me on sat eve and warned that he will not allow me to enter his home.

    within 1 min he called my father also and warned the same. my father said ok.
    then i came back on sunday morning when his father called me.

    i just do not understand how to stay with this kind of person.
    in turn he is asking my father to say sorry to him.
    he fights with me for small reasons.
    i am extremely sensitive and cool in nature and have no such experience of fighting. every time i forgive him and forgets his acts.
    i have adjusted a lot. but this time he crossed the limit.

    please tell me how to behave with such a person
    to whom shall i ask for help. please suggest any ngos/married women orgs in Pune

    please help me. please give your invaluable advices. Thanks in advice.
     
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  2. GodIsOne

    GodIsOne Gold IL'ite

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    Why do you need NGO support?

    Are you planning to separate from him? If yes, talk to your family first and contact a lawyer.

    If you are looking for counseling then take reference from your general physician or someone you know.
     
  3. swarupajoshi

    swarupajoshi New IL'ite

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    i did not tell him when i m coming back to his home on friday.
    now he is saying that i should have adjusted and should have come on sat eve itself.
    its my fault. i m proving him false. he is saying.

    i think he did not listen properly that day. i told him in low voice that when i m coming back to his home i'l tell later to his mom.


    i do adjust a lot. if i don't listen to him in such cases as above he creates a big drama.
    i don't like to fight with him now and then.
    i do not have friends. don't know how to behave with him.
    he thinks only of himself and he and his parents keeps insulting my parents through such acts.
    i wonder how to live with him:drowning


     
  4. peet1983

    peet1983 Silver IL'ite

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    I believe the problems right now is not a long standing and you no need to spoil your life for that. I strongly thinks that he would have happily asked himself you to stay one more day in your house if his mother asked to do so. Your DH is looks to less exp to tackle his family pressure or demands. The easiest way to get the things done via your MIL rather your DH since he is not one who looks to be take decision, ,to get change him it may take some time. You wont lose anything rather just few words and enjoy the results.

    All the best.
     

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