Play Date Friends

This problem is common or not sure don't have any idea but my kid too face some similar things. From my personal observation I can say that

The kids are too small. They only know to play and they play with those whom they don't have to explain too much. They can't take care of other kids shortcomings. As you said your child can't speak properly then those kids do not know how to deal with this so becoming rude and ignorant. Its not their mistake.

Second thing I have seen that if some more interesting game is told to them they will start playing with your kid too.

Their moms don't have any role in this. Kids play like this only. Become rude as they do not know the correct way to deal with.

 

Hi Viki123,
You are brave that you are trying to have playdates with full time job. I have kind of given up and weekends I do not find time from household work.

Playdate is always a problem in this country. We can not scold others kids and kids never know their boundaries, they are being kids. My kid, same age as your son, goes to daycare full time so evening I do nt get lot of time to take her out to play etc, even though she sleeps very late. On wkends, I have so many household stuff to take care of. So I just hope she plays in daycare for the whole week.

She does not have many playdates outside school. We had few kids year ago, but whomever she had, starts out good but end up mess at home and hard for me. Kids play well for some time but after 1-2 hrs, they start fighting ( part of childhood) but we somehow can not take it.

In my case, my kid is sensitive and low confidence. So anyone can bully her. Older kids bully her so now I try to stay away from them inspite of their mommies my good friends, I do not arrange meeting scared of her kids.
Kids her age, come to our house and bully her for her toys for not sharing and themselves won't share so I do not know how to deal myself with such playdate problems.In winters, its hard to arrange playdate outside for me with full time job and household duties.

So In your case, you have playdates atleast.
Mommies - do not talk to you much, you know why. I go through that too. You are not much useful to them. Some times it language, culture or merely they are able to spend more time with each other and common issues, so they do not feel your need
So its your need now and just for your kid, try to talk to them. kids need company. You are not looking for best friends. If they respond, thats fine, else forget them.

Yes, you can enroll in some activities. I am confused about it, and have been planning same, but also I feel it will be overload on me also. dropping picking. .. my H is not very cooperative here.

 

I think its normal. Kids like only those who give them lot and do not take anything from them. They do not have any more in their mind.

 

Dear op and @sanjuruby3

Yes occupying kid in winter is big headache in this country..

I am on h4, so sahm. I arrange play date. No one cares to host, I always host, no on cares to clean up, mommies come chat with each other while I monitor their kids. I also gave snacks which was spilled not cleaned. Inspite of all this I was not part of their other gathering..

Not that they hate me. I am new. . They all r staying from long time and already have groups... Just use me to host and entertain their kids.

And yes I have seen my neighbor son 6yrs who come use all our toys and when mt son rarely go his house and touch something he says bad tharun you don't know. Don't touch,tharun u will break it. Tharun don't do this. And takes away things force fully from hus hands. His mom won't say a thing. And my son is just 2.5. seeing all this am fed up.

Am waiting for summer so he can play in park. For now I play with him tak to library and museums...

 

Every other mom too have lots of things to do at home. And if someone less known to them and they do not have any strong relationship with you then they will prefer to relax rather take extra work from you.

 

Not all mothers know what they should do to make them correct. Its their mistake but they may not be very much aware about the corrective actions that they should take.