Physical Intimacy Issues- good marriage counselor/therapist ?

I must say I'm pleasantly suprised that there are male posters that are able to communicate maturely about sex and don't shun other Indian women for having sexual desires.

Maybe I grew up in the wrong area, but it was dangerous for an Indian female to talk so openly about sex in the major American city I resided in. My definition of the madonna/whore complex is when a guy wants sex from a woman and pressures her to do it, but demonizes her at the same time for doing it. He has a hard time accepting that it's okay for women to be sexual beings, but thinks it's okay for men to do the same. Many of these men will have casual sex and date a sexually passionate woman, but they will only marry someone that's pious. When married, these same men may have a fling on the side.

 

ditto !!!
I am facing the same problem My husband is caring, sensitive, helping, etc. but almost no physical relationship. We are like brother-sister living together. We don't talk anything naughty or he never even touches in a naughty way or something. If at all there is sex , it is over in 5-10 mins.

In my case my husband proposed. It is a love marriage. He never ever touched me at all before marriage. Before marriage even when I went with him for a movie, he never held my hand or touched me. I thought he is a perfect gentleman.

But he is the same even after marriage.

 

Really tht is so sad.. but in my case my husband was very romantic and naughty before. we used to go for movies etc n have lot of romantic dates... But suddenly after marriage all changed.. I think it is like " Ghar ki murgi daal barabar" kind of thing.. Just yest i fought with him n said i don;t want to have sex with u anymore.. if u keep on doing this to me always.. e.i." once in a month that too only for 5 mins hardly"... Then he was angry for some time then he apologised n we make love for longer time ... hope everything will be alright ...

u too try to talk to him what is the problem? Why he not getting intimate with you .. ask him when he will be in good mood n try to put ur point of view for this matter as what u want and how u want like that... Just see what he has to say n let me know

 

is that the only reason for asking for the email address?

and dude, the OP has disaapeared long since. chek the date of the original post.

 

amin this jaani123 is roaming here and there in the forum for his prey

 

I feel jaani123 have some special tips...:bonk...so asked for email address..why don't contact no...?:rant
Now my views...
1) I feel sometime husband is busy with work family and all and he really need sometime for himself.:exactly:.for peace so no problem with this
2) if you really feel that DH is no more interested in SEx..try some romantic:cool2: idea and for this no need to give your email add to any one just google it..so many ideas..
3) show your care, romance, love, lust..to DH..he is fully yours so don't feel shy...
4) if all above don't work..go out with DH for a romantic dinner and ask what he really want...:goodidea:
I feel sometime male sex drive is high so he want it more..some time women so she want more but..if partner is no interested it doesn't mean he/she don't love,care...it means he/she is stuck somewhere with some problem so just help your partner to come out from problems...:thumbsup

 

We Call it as DINS - "Double Income, No Sex". Better consult a professional doctor at your place

best regards

[FONT=&quot]Dr A CHAKRAVARTHY[/FONT][FONT=&quot] MBBS; MBA (Hospital Management); MHSc (Reproductive & Sexual Medicine)[/FONT][FONT=&quot]
Consultant In Reproductive & Sexual Medicine / Sexologist[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]Thiruvananthapuram, Kerala, Republic of India[/FONT]
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hey are u from dubai

 

Good to see you back after three years.....OP..!

A man not initiating sex, even when there is no conflict, mental compatibility is okay, is relatively rare situation. Men in this situation are said to be having low libido ( sexual desire). Such low libido in men can very well be due to low testosterone levels in blood. In this case, testosterone replacement therapy (in the form of periodical injections) will give him back the normal sexual desire. Then, he , like any other normal man, will initiate sex frequently.

But, there is an issue here. There are lots of men, with low libido............and also with NORMAL TESTOSTERONE LEVELS. These men's libido will not improve with any number of testosterone injections. Why this set of men, even with normal blood testosterone levels, have a very low desire for sex is a mystery to scientists. No one has the answer yet. Some medical practioners, give testosterone injections to these set of men (with normal testosterone and low desire), which is quite wrong. Here, replacement of testosterone by injections will harm the man.

So, first your man's testosterone level has to be assessed, to decide whether he is likely to be benefitted by testosterone injections.