Nurturing children

Dear SLN,
That was an interesting thought.

Each individual is endowed with unique skills and talents as well as bogged down by invidual deficiencies.Understanding the individual’s strengths and building on them while helping to overcome inadequacies will make the world a better place.The same principle is eminently suited for bringing up children by building on their strengths and not harping on their deficiencies..

The same priniciple that one should build on or atleast learn to appreciate the strengths of an individual should hold good in all walks of life.
I come across men who compare thepr spouses with other women,
"She is so smart,she keeps a shining kitchen,why does our kitchen looks filthy?" forgetting the fact that their better halfs are endowed with generous hearts and forgiving nature.
I come across women who compare their husbands with other men.
"Do you know,so and so's husband takes her on a holiday every year?When was the last time we went on a holiday?"forgetting the fact that their dhs toil and save money for the rainy days.

Children do suffer a lot when their parents refuse to identify their various skills that remain dormant in them,not getting encouragement from parents who are interested in 99percent in all subjects,noting more nothing less.

Strange are the ways of the world!

Regards
mithila

 

Sir,
You have rightly said concentrate on the good qualities and less attention to be paid to negative points. We can't be best in all and each one has their own area of mastery.

This applies not only for nurturing children, but also for dealing with any human beings. Then you start noticing that deficiencies fade away,we will be seeing the only the skills, talents and good nature

Thanks,
Jaya

 

Lakshmi mama
You always write great snippets about relevant topics and matters that count .

I never knew these facts about the humming bird though I was aware of the Ostrich.

You have managed to highlight what can be considered the most important lesson for a parent in these few lines. Most parents I know focus on the deficient side of a child and overlook every significant achievement. Mainly because the child might not measure up to preconceived notions exisiting within the parents mind!

This helps reinforce in mind of what the focus should be for a parent.
Thanks for sharing.


The best inheritance a parent can give to his children is a few minutes of their time each day.-Grundler

 

Dear LN Sir,
I was just wondering yesterday if you are back from your holiday. Couldn't wait to read something interesting from you in the snippet section and walla! here you are today. Wow!

Such an interesting write up and thanx for the reference. I believe that it's always best to take the good points and leave the bad or the ones that we don't agree with.......cause after all, nobody is perfect. And with kids, it's best to encourage them to grow as per their individuality, their likes and just guide them to make sure that they don't go overboard or slip away from a path that we, as elders, know would ensure their well being.

 

Sir,
Interesting facts about differences in birds..which also side by side, highlights its strengths..see here too, I saw the differences first..:biggrin2:

Rightly said..here in schools, they ask for strengths and weakness for the child..and the like..

Looking good in others too...makes our life easy going..'kuttram paarkkil suttram illai..'.

sriniketan