From Indus ladies, as well as from some of my friends/family circle - many nuclear families are planning to have their parents move-in (i.e. their kids' grandparents) when they begin to need help (or would like help) for their daily life. I am wondering how the dynamics will work? I thought, the earlier the joint-family (with it's own share of plusses and minuses) worked because during their 50s and 60s (and sometimes even 40s), grandparents were active contributors to these families - helping with cooking, grocery shopping, raising kids, income, culture, experiential wisdom, etc. This integral contribution to running the household would have made it easier and more natural for the 2nd and 3rd generation in the household to provide as much physical and emotional support when needed most by the aging grandparents in the household. And most importantly there were many hands to help. Also the acknowledgement, appreciation and importance of the grandparent's contributions is fresh in their minds and makes it easier to perform their care-giving duties. (I say the joint family system "worked" not that it continues to work well because it has been on a decline for various reasons which speaks of its impracticality in current circumstance) But if there is now separation and independence in these peak years (50s + 60s and even early 70s) - how can we expect a "healthy give-and-take" in this relationship? Or what can be done to foster a healthy relationship? I know it is not a business transaction for "give-and-take" to work. I also am talking of the cases where the relationship is reasonably OK - with the trials and tribulations that most relationships have to endure (and not one in which there is intense discomfort/hurt and pain between the two parties). Do you personally know of families where the two generations were independent for a couple of decades (with occasional visits and such) and then they moved in together without much issue? I know it's hard to say from afar as a third person - but just asking to see if you've across families where it worked and where it didn't work. Do you plan to do this in your family? If yes, how will the kids - possibly teenagers at the time of the late-start- bond with the grandparents? (especially given the generation gap between parents and kids themselves is wide enough). What if the kids have left for college? How will parents who are recent-empty nesters handle this care-giving?