Not so friendly BIL and Co sis visting, what shud i do!!?

Hello dear ladies,

wanted ur opinion n advice on something!

ok my younger bil n co sis wud be coming to my place to celebrate my dh's birthday.

I am not in talking terms with my fil n mil cz of their bad behaviour and repeated harrasment. Though i did wish my mil on her birthday n spoke two lines to fil as well over the phn. However i have never communicated this fact to bil or co sis ever that i am not in talking terms with them. Both the brothers are not that close, just a hi hello kind of relationship. I wud say my husband cares more for his brother than his brother does. They dont talk that much, his was a love marriage that the inlaws were totally against but my dh supported his brother, tried to mediate the whole thing. He infact also was a witness to their court marriage that they did in US without telling my inlaws, co sis's parents knew abt it. My inlaws still dont knw abt it, if they knew. My god the drama that will follow!! However after our marriage when my husband needed his support before mil n fil regarding our relationship, he did not stand up for my husband! Infact he is kind of competitive and wants to always prove that his marriage is more successfull than ours, petty things really, wants to earn brownie points (as my husband calls it) with mil and fil every chance he gets by showing or telling our things to the inlaws. However my husband never ever tells the inlaws anything abt their activities. He maintains that he doesnt know, while they do not really do so. On the face the relationship is cordial with them, just like distant relatives are, we talk every week on phn, more like formality, the call lasts for like 10 minutes n brothers talk for 2 minutes!

my co sis, she is 6 yrs elder to me, 2 years elder to my husband, m just telling her age, cz she is suppose to be more mature than me, or i dont know, maybe age has nothing to do with maturity. She is the sweetest person on the earth on ur face, while she can be very manipulative!! She can be so sweet that when u realise what she has done ull never belive that she is capable of something like that!! Anyways i have no issues with the two of them, i try n be cordial. I feel if someone can manipulate me then its my problem not theirs, cz i let my guard dwn! Even my husband tells me, that i cant hide my emotions and if i feel something is not right i have a habit of just blabbing it out! He tells me i shud not be like i am on a mission to rite all wrongs!! I have cooled dwn a lot, n m trying to change!!

Now evertime when we go to our bil's place or they come, we tend to skype with the inlaws back home! Even this tym i think they wud try doung skype, what shud i do when they skype?! Sit in the call? Be busy in the kitchen?! If my co sis asks shud i at all tell her y m maintaining a distance from my inlaws!! I knw if i tell they wud try n use it against us!! What shud i tell y m not in taking terms!!

my co sis also faced a lot of problem with my inlaws before n after marriage but sonehow she just dsnt care, she will still talk to them, do all kind of buttering, will listen things against her parents. Shes just too thick skinned! I admire this quality of hers though!! But i cant do that!!

Please advice what shud i do!?

 

2 days, we also visit fr two days , they also visit for 2 days!!

 

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