Non performers have a more fertile imagination!

Dear Sri sir,

There is a story in Mahabaratha, where Duryodana and Yudishtra will be asked to find good and bad people. Duryodhana was asked to find good people and Yudishtra was asked to find bad people.

Both of them were unable to find. I am not telling you that I am yudishtra or a highly truthful person. But I prefer to think all people in a good sense. And of course my MIL was totally different from all MILs being portrayed. It is not that we dont have misunderstandings, we too had. But I just followed one particular thing my husband told me after our engagement.

I am giving it in his own words, "Unakkum enga ammakkum, adavadhu unnoda mamiyarukkum kandipa misunderstandings varum, aana adha perisakkarathuku munnadi, adha oru complainta en kitta solrathuku munnadi oru nimisham yosichu paaru, un mamiyar sonna andha varthaya un amma solli irunda nee eppadi eduthupe? So dont make things bigger."

I understood what he is expecting from me. And from then on though we had misunderstandings me and my mil we just were like mom and daughter fighting for silly things, laughing and sharing what we see and what we read. She will choose dress for me and I will for her. We were a good MIL and DIL pair. But I think God felt that I am being so over lucky and so he seized her away from me. She was with me just for 3 years. Those three years were real great years in my life as she made me understand each and everyone in our family. Though she is not alive today, we especially me remeber her and associate her with each and every activity of day to day life.

Infact my daughter was born just after 4 months of my MIL's death and I see her as the rebirth of my MIL.

Thanks Sri sir, for bringing back all good memories of my MIL.

 

Yes Sri sir,

The tales of yesteryears have always fascinated me and I would like to live in those yesteryears. But lo it is not possible.

 

Dear Sri,
I am going back to your leader post, now, after the "straying" (digression?) in the past 2, 3 posts.
You write that your language has changed over the years with age, rather mellowed. But has your tolerance level to non performers increased? I do not think so, since it is one's basic nature.
Cooking up reasons for non performance is an art ! You friend is an expert at it, rather was an expert in his corporate days. I do not mean about his performance in his office work (that was not my concern, only his boss's), I mean his keeping up his promises in the domestic front, after returning from office. For attending a family function as late comers, he would flash a smile & get away with a nice conversation; I had to think of a suitable reason to offer in the function to the hosts, without mentioning the same old story that he returned late (as usual) from office. I really was imaginative to defend him, more choicelessly, even though I would "take it out" on him later at home.
So, for his non performance, I had to match with my fertile imagination !
I perfected the art of defending V in the eyes of others - what else could I have done? It was my wifely duty to "protect" him !
Love,
Chithra.

 

Dear Chitraji,

Not just you but all wives often have to start on their imaginative skills to say why their husband is not on time for the functions be is as a guest or as a host. I personally have been into such a situation many a times in this 10 years. And you know what at times he will blurt out some reason for not coming on time which will contradict my statement and I have to bite my lips and bow my head.:bangcomp: :bangcomp: :bangcomp: :bangcomp:

 

Dear Sri,
Enna irundalum Vish thane ungal nanbar? Nan co-I L ite thane?
Ithai, ithai, ithai than nan edirparthen !
Inam inathodu thane ayya serum? !:evil:
Love,
Chithra.