No India trip for past 9 years

Hi Ladies,

I always come to this place when I need help & I always get good advises with my best friends from ILites not one whole ILites helped me & I am sooo grateful for that :Bow:.Please accept my appreciation.

This time I have another problem, nine years back when my hub hit me I called police but didn't make report against him & that time he offered me to go India with kids ( kids were very young like 4 & 2). But I didn't go & thought to stay here & try to let him know that I am sorry for calling police ( not said but tried with my actions) Since then I am trying to win his trust but unfortunately I didn't. Each year whenever I talk about India trip he always make excuse like my family is not respectful to him & his family, you need to forget your family if you want to stay with me,never see them again( this sentence was few months after police came).

I tried each way I called my parents & asked them apologize to him & they did. My family is ready to do anything in order to see me & kids( they are teenager now). we do skype but in person feeling is different.

Now from past two years he is making excuse for my health that I am fat, I snore louder blah....actually he is more worry about his reputation. 3 or 4 years back he went India alone & intentionally he made his plan during school time so kids can't go.

Now, my kids need passport renewal & without both parents presence it cannot be done. I tried each & every way to beg him but he is being stubborn not ready to send India. he is saying that he can give me one way ticket & I have 12 yrs old DD I cannot leave her with boys. My husband, he is not trusty person, he had sex with some night club girl & never accepted & also went to court because I believe he tried with underage girl( it's all like 9 yrs back) after that I don't know because that time I were in India.

Now, my family & friends also suggested me not to go alone. Also my Mom has all kind of problems like high bp,sugar & heart one. Last winter she had Shingles.
My both parents are dying to meet with me & kids but he is blocking the way.

Please suggest something. And I don't have job because some or other way he didn't let me do job with lame excuses.

I am feeling badly home sick please please suggest me & i don't know at this point my marriage is broken or what because we both don't sleep together .

Please help me in any way you can,
Thank you everyone for reading this long post,
Saheli

 

Thanks friends for your responses. And pardon me form my late response.

@Emerald,What was he reason to call police? Because he hit me and that was like 3rd time....to stop him I called police but not took action ( complaint, because felt guilty calling police , so stupid of me)
Do you have GC or citizenship? Yes, I have GC & he never bother to help me in getting citizenship. But he applied for citizenship ASAP because of my police called.

Gaze, kids passport expired long before & now I have two choices either keep begging him or talk to Immigration dept. because they have this option that if your spouse is not letting you go then I have to fill up different form. I also told him about this form so now he is saying that didn't I try for this. I also told him if I try it is going to effect his job as well. But he is taking advantage of me & strictly saying no.

Sweetgirl123, I,definitely, don't want to spend my rest of the life with him, he is jerk & coward as well. I am doing part time job but the problem is my DS is in High school & doesn't want to go back India. My parents from the day one they are supporting me & still saying if I want to come back India, I can & they can also ready to send me India tickets as well. But because of kids study and passport I am sooo much worried.

dia3, he knows all this & that's why he always said to me leave the house ( because 9 yrs back when he bought the house he waited for me to come from India & signed the house paper together, maybe guilt of having s** with other woman).

In Dec. 2014, he shouted full of his lungs & hit me again & then my DS stepped in & stopped him, what a shame. So now he is trying to close to the kids now a days.
Also, you all won't believe but I don't have credit card and he gives me $100/mo & thinks it's good enough for me. Only one bank a/c access which has no more than l $500 or less in checking & if I use check to do shopping, he asked 100 questions. He does all grocery & his choice food comes in my home. In other way he pretty much controlled our lives. And frankly, we all tired of him but again, I do feel responsible for all this. He is not social guy, we had huge argument about other people invitation. He bought house furniture after 9 years of moving in the house. 2 years back he celebrated his bday with his office collegues & didn't tell us. Then I called his boss & he asked him to call home because your wife is getting worried about you. At home we were waiting for him to celebrate .

Dia3, is there any lawyer which can give me any free consultation regarding this matter because I can't pay their high fees also.