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Newly Married - Questions about Intimacy!

Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by lalithakumar, Apr 3, 2008.

  1. BuviVishal

    BuviVishal Gold IL'ite

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    Re: First night. HELP!

    Dear sangi,

    Yeah today my period has been stopped. Why you asked mt to do IC today itself. In other threads stating that i should do IC when mine ovualtion period. I was calculated my ovaluation date in net. It is 26th of this month. I am thinking to do on that day only. Could you please clear when i should do IC. From 14th day of period or once my period is got stopped.

    I am confusing. Please clarrify my doubt.
     
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  2. sangiak

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    Re: First night. HELP!

    Hi buvana
    While it is normally said that u must have IC in the ovulation period, it is also advisable and nothing wrong in starting right after ur period is over. By this way, u can overcome any IC problems that u might have or experience while doing it like erection maintenance, ur lubrication, etc..so when the ovulation time comes, u both would have overcome all these and be ready to indulge in IC and obtain the desired result of getting pregnant.

    Hope this is useful.

    regards
    sangi
     
  3. BuviVishal

    BuviVishal Gold IL'ite

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    Thanks Sangi. Then i will start IC from today itself and let you know once its got success. usually my DH organ inserted fully but when he withdraw the sperms are came out. then i used to wipe it. we dont know whether its go inside or not. similarly i am not feel that the liquid is coming from vagina. When it will come?

    As i am working i am travelling 45 km daily by office bus. whether it will affect the TTC. My husband is also travelling on his office bus. whether i need to take a leave to get success in TTC?
     
  4. sangiak

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    Hi Buvana,
    Pls ensure by placing a pillow beneath when u lie down that ur vagina is elevated than normal. Then, make sure he has inserted his organ by placing ur hands and confirming the same. U can in fact guide him inside urself in doing this. When ur foreplay stops, u can be assured that u r wet and ready inside, meaning ur ready to accept the organ. This can be judged by placing a finger into ur vagina and confirming the same just before IC.

    Hope this is helpful.

    Regards
    sangi
     
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    BuviVishal Gold IL'ite

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    Thanks Sangi.

    Please clear this:):)
     
  6. sangiak

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    Re: First night. HELP!

    Dear Buvi,
    If u & hubby feel tired on weekdays as a result of traveling like this, then it is better to try more on weekends as u might not get enough energy on workdays owing to extensive traveling. There is no need to take leave for this purpose. Just make sure that after u both come home, refresh urselves, have a sweet talk, and relax(sleep also) and then indulge in IC early next morning (weekdays, probably at 5 a.m. and after) when DH erection will also be maximum. Try this option. Do not waste early morning time sleeping, indulge in IC to maximum and u will get refreshed too.

    Regards
    Sangi
     
  7. BuviVishal

    BuviVishal Gold IL'ite

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    Omg ... Early morning ah . On that time only we used to sleep well. Let us try ...

    Thanks sangi to clear my doubts. Thanks to IL.
     
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    Hi Ladies,

    I am a new member. I am engaged to my boyfriend recently. Our marriage is scheduled for October mid. I have a very personal question which cannot be shared with anyone.

    Me and my would be loved each other for nearly 4 years and both of our parents agreed for the marriage. After engagement, we got lot of freedom to hang out and spend time together with our parents permission. Me and my BF used to talk about sex to some extent via phone or sms but we never tried anything. After engagement, my BF was so curious to try out something. Though I initially felt its bad, my mindset changed as he kept on asking for it. We went on a long drive and he showed some **** and we got carried away by the heat of the moment. We just did some fondling and got into mood and tried oral as he kept asking for it. The problem was when I did oral on him, he ejaculated into my mouth as soon I took the head of his part into my mouth though I spitted it out.

    I am really scared now as I am afraid that it might lead to pregnancy before marriage. That would be a big embarrassment and I cannot face anyone. I feel really guilty and low. I shouted at him and left the place. I am not able to be peaceful. I told it to my best friend and she suggested me this site saying experts here will answer all the queries. I joined here mainly to get an answer for this. Also, I was disappointed that he ejaculated immediately the moment i started. Is that a problem? Will he able to last long in IC?
     
  9. srimathiv

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    Hi Sangia,

    Thanks a lot for your clarification. Infact I tried a bit but the taste and the smell is a big turn off for me. My husband keeps pleading me every time. Its like he keeps doing oral on my genital for me in 69 position and I am struggling to do oral for him. I dont wish to tell him openly as he might get offended. I just gave some kisses to his part and kept touching it rather than really doing it. He wants it very frequently and I dont know how to overcome it.

     
  10. sangiak

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    Hi ranjanikris
    There is absolutely no need for worry in your case. Semen drinking is quite safe even by accident as it is full of protein that aids in our hair nourishment also. U will not get pregnant as a result of drinking this or even if 2-3 drops entered ur stomach. So, don't get panicky, u can continue to give oral and there is nothing wrong about trying this even before ur marriage. Dont feel guilty or low. Pls ask ur boyfriend forgiveness for shouting at him.

    His coming early is the result of ur fondling and getting excitement from the rubbing u did for sometime. He came only after u put it into ur mouth. So, he has control to some extent and that is well enough for u both ranjani. Dont worry abt this too.

    Regards
    sangi
     
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