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Newly Married - Questions about Intimacy!

Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by lalithakumar, Apr 3, 2008.

  1. Mona111

    Mona111 New IL'ite

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    Re: private life problem

    Thank you everyone for great advice/suggestions. I am new here and did not know personal emails could not be posted. Thank god I could edit and remove it before anyone sent any emails to me. The community here is great, very supportive and nice. I will keep coming back because of the wonderful supportive community and hope to keep you all informed about my progress :).
     
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  2. Gauri03

    Gauri03 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: private life problem

    Mona,

    IL does not have a dedicated forum to deal with sex related issues and for obvious reasons. Such discussions have a way of running away from the issue at hand and turning into distasteful discussions of people's private lives. But that sometimes makes it hard to find a proper location for a thread such as yours. This forum has a dedicated sticky thread that deals with intimacy issues. Did you look into that thread? I am glad you were able to edit out your contact information. If you need to contact any of us privately, you can do so by purchasing private messaging facility.

    Best,
    Gauri
     
  3. Mona111

    Mona111 New IL'ite

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    Gauri, why not have a forum section dedicated to sex where people with general sexual problems/issues can go to? if discussions go out of line, the moderators should intervene. That is what moderators are for. Look at my issue, I am sure many others are going through it but it seems there is no place for us to discuss it in this forum so its dumped into fertility section while I am on pills. As someone earlier said, we are all adults and should be able to discuss these things decently.
     
  4. Vidya21

    Vidya21 Senior IL'ite

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    Re: private life problem

    You are right about the Fertility, TTC forum title being sorta misleading for questions relating solely to intimacy.

    There is a sticky thread in this forum called "Newly Married: Questions about Intimacy" that addresses these issues. It might be more straightforward to move the sticky thread as a sub-forum to "Me and My Spouse" or something like that.
     
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  5. cutekid

    cutekid Silver IL'ite

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    Mona,
    Just to let U know,when u join the forum ,u need to read the Rules & etti. sections ,which clearly states that you are not allowed to share any personal info.Also U should have your own maturity:rant whether you want to share your personal details any any public place or not.As indusladies have high traffic they cannot go through each & every post ,every hour & keep editing it.And I have been here for quite some time the moderators are not at all incompetent.they do their job well.:thumbsup
     
  6. sumyramasamy

    sumyramasamy New IL'ite

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    human beings are never satisfied with what they have in life. Ur husband is abble to support you financially, gud looking, gud family backgroud etc.... sex is just a part of life/relationship - there are other alternatives like masturbation (get him to do it for you), vibrators, toys which you can venture into besides cheating for sake of sex....Dont waste your gud life just for that matter. Talk things out with him & think about all the other wives who lack a lot of other things in life... there are some who have to work thier ass off to support themself & kids despite the husband around (not assisting financially, selfish, other expenses to support etc etc). Sorry for being blunt but that's the facts of life. We always feel that the grass is greener on the other side..
     
  7. ShilpaMa

    ShilpaMa IL Hall of Fame

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    ha ha ha Malvika, I guess this section is the best to disguise these PRIVATE topics from junk readers.. who just want to have it for fun and are dead scared of pregnancy :rotfl:rotfl:rotfl. probably they'll never venture into this section.
    Fertility & TTC is a final destination when any & every discussion can be considered normal cos a lot of people (family + medics) get involved into your "private" life..... most of the other cases shall still consider it too bold a topic to discuss on public forum.. since the time I joined, 3-4 threads were considered outrageous by posters and sent out of relationship section.

    Many a times bolder replies sent across ended up hurting innocent OP. Subforums with specific names can easily be googled by prying eyes.. I guess the moderator for any such forum needs to be medical practitioner doing counselling in this area..cos what suits to one reader might be outrageous to another.
     
  8. Gauri03

    Gauri03 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: private life problem

    A topic warrants a forum of its own only if there are a sufficient number of unique threads that fit into that subject matter. That is not the case here. Threads on sex related issues are few and far in between and almost all of these queries can be answered by one or two detailed replies. Hence the sticky thread. Anyone with a more serious problem ought to see a doctor.

    Also as Shilpa put it, a forum for such problems will only bring in a barrage of Googler's looking for nothing more than vicarious titillation.
     
  9. Malavika81

    Malavika81 Bronze IL'ite

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    You mean there isn't enough **** and other material of similar nature on the internet that people will target an Indian ladies site for this material? One would hope internet is not running out of sex related material LOL Personally, that sounds like a very flimsy reason to me.

    There seems to be quite a few threads on this topic so a sub forum would not hurt. Dumping this in Fertility & Trying to conceive is a bit absurd as this issue has nothing to do with both.

    Shilpama, as long as we are disguising this topic, why don't we hide this in say religion & spirituality or Indians in Russia section? :rotfl
     
  10. Gauri03

    Gauri03 Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Is there ever enough ****? Anyway, (In my best James Sawyer accent) I ain't bitin the bait Mals.

    Please take it up in the feedback and suggestions forum.
     
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