New property in joint name of mil

pari80 · Apr 12, 2013

It is not india . It is "educated people" like us misinterpreting "freedom" and "self identity" and trying to merge them with marriage.

I agree with you that once married , everything should be "ours" rather than his or hers!!!!. What's the point of marriage otherwise. Have live-in relationship where you have "relationship" but no "our" feelings.

sdiva20 said: ↑

Is this what marriages in India have come down to? coming together of two professions to live together under same roof, contribute jointly towards common expenses, buy assets together and lastly procreate? Since when did husband and wife have seperate incomes and assets? Why is this guy and his mother buying home/ property together? Obviously spouses dont even discuss important decisions together. Why call it marriage??

In normal marriages husband and wife joined together in love share everything regardless of who contributes what (or nothing) financially. But you guys obviously have different equation as you clearly stated:

Since it is his money, I won't dissuade him and won't even mention that this is perhaps not entirely justified. Tomorrow if they build a house on this land, I will absolutely not contribute money to it ( in the absence of having any right over it).
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sdiva20 · Apr 13, 2013

Agree Pari...

Just want to make one thing clear- I said "India" not to criticise the country. Dont want the discussion to veer off tangent so I took it off.

In Indian culture (or frankly any culture) marriage is about love and respect and not "your money" "my money". In the west, people in live-in relationships have similar arrangements which I believe is due to lact of commitment. But now (at least in IL), I see more and more people (men and women)have this attitude. If IL is reflective of a cross-section of Indian population, I just wonder- where is the trust? the love? the respect? where is the good old fashioned belief systems, I wonder...........

prettydevil · Apr 13, 2013

ShilpaMa said: ↑

You have property 1 with 50-50 share between you and H, your security is done.
Maybe your MIL wanted something for her security... or your H had some extra cashflow and he decided to buy additional property 2... this time 50-50 with his mom. Agreed she's not contributing monetarily at this stage... but maybe its a way to show gratitude by a son for his mom... who did a few things in initial years for him...

Be happy that he considered you as the partner in first property and now he's just playing right with his mom. Also she din't cut you short on your rights in the first place.......... As long as he's the co-owner the property can't be disposed alone by his mom....
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I completely second Shilpama....

rohinipadi · Apr 13, 2013

Mimita I think your husband would like to do something for his parents thats why he is buying second property in her name. There is nothing wrong in that. Maybe you can buy another property for your parents and you so that you can make your parents also happy. Parents also need some security na.Why fuss so much ?Be happy you have a happy home rather than sulking how many houses you have.At the end of day it doesn't matter.I think you should even show your happiness to your DH that he is doing for his parents.They are not going to run away with your property.There is nothing permenant in this life.Money is man created and it gives only temporary happiness.

Thanks
RP

coolpinky · Apr 13, 2013

Not sure for how long you are married. U should be knowing about your mil by now.
Also not sure how is your relationship with your mil.
I also feel that since ur dh is the only son there is no harm.
But personally I also feel that its not correct.
May be his parents might have fought with him when he registered the first property in both your names.
For time being I think this is not an issue to worry.