Hi I am back again , I really need some expert advice . I am taking myself so seriously and taking everything ( financial , kid and family all on my shoulders ) and today gods grace I moved to different country along with my daughter . And this lock down made our Long distAnce relationship even worse and on good side , made me stronger to lead a life without husband . Yes I am like single parent ( of course even before ) , he used to play blame game and travel and leaving everything on me . I am literally crying now , I don’t know he alway says all my fault and my family fault . I don’t want men to do cooking for woman ( wife ) but I can’t deal with men who manipulates every moment. I have been living in this manipulative world for the last 7 years and was depressed and lost focus on anything and no confidence where I was so confident before marriage . He is 9th fail and I am topper I’m engg and they cheated me saying he did MCA and live abroad . He didn’t share also , even after I asked ( I didn’t want to ask also because I thought it hurts him and like everybody marriage happened and now to live ) and his job is different and they are poor ( is not what portrayed to us ) , my family also never asked them untill recently ( my brother asked ) What woman and family should go through ? Is it papam to be born as a woman and giving birth to girl , where parents should suffer a lot if we get he people like them in name arranged marriage . This guy never wants to take care of responsibility, he knows I will do , he says he does not know and busy at work , teaching kid he does jot , he says he is good sports ( does he do that part ) no he says I am busy . I think he is very selfish , if I buy cloths ( he will say ahh u bought new cloths , buy buy you have money ) , he is already attending very expensive ( pay around 300$:month ) and i hired some online fitness expert paying 8k and he wanted to join that guy as wel . and I left the country and came to another country joining gym and he joined similar gym back in that country . is he competing with me ? I never seen men like him . if I buy gold ornament , u know what he says ( ahh it’s been 2 years since we bought this chain ( I bought it for him) , I have to change ) I was awestruck and cried inside what a character he is ? he has sisters ( they are gold frantic , buy a lot ) and before marriage he had a chain and which his family made necklace for his mom out of that . Otherwise he had nothing . he does not send us single pennynow and even before , to the groceries and house management , I used to take care of everything . Today he lives happily in 2 bedroom apartment and not even subletted . If I ask it was planned before and why u didn’t do it ? He says not sure if your work make you come back . Ok but then how will one person living alone in big house paying so much rent . U know whenever I ask him what he was spending for us , he used to tell me , I am paying house rent and you living here because of me . Today it really prove that he was not spending extra penny for us , atleast before I hired a helper and groceries , supported him I feel like killing myself and my daughter thinking how long I should suffer like this , I remember after marriage whole family (extended family ) played blame game on me , where untill marriage saying I am good looking and just the day after marriage started saying does anybody say you are good looking in the marriage . This guy whenever we fight I obviously scold his family the way tortured me and cheated me , should we not scold them ? He records my conversations and has cctv camera ( says he wants to know what helper does at home ) does anybody look at when your family member at home ? He did it Every time I was at home and my mother or brother or sisters came to visit or rather take care of my daughter . I just can’t take it anymore . I still didn’t understand his behaviour well .