Navigating Family, Career And Self

NOW · Nov 10, 2021

Gauri03 said: ↑

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To sum up a very long post, here’s a quote by John Steinbeck - “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, be good.” : )
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Such an incredible post covering so many areas of life and so inspiring. Thank you for taking your time and contributing !

I have a long way to go in each of the areas mentioned and will contemplate how I can best incorporate them and need to come up with few actionable items. I am so glad that I started this thread

NOW · Nov 10, 2021

Viswamitra said: ↑

@NOW,

An excellent initiative and you have already done a great job by not only posting this thread but also attracted the best comments from the ladies here in IL. There are so many of what everyone said I like so much and a few I am mentioning below:

I am sure other ladies who are doing such a great job in balancing their career and family responsibilities including raising their children would further comment here.

In my humble view, To Do List is just transfering the data that you store in your memories to an external drive so that you can release some of the space in our minds. It doesn't mean every one of them has to be accomplished. The days ahead and time elapsed automatically make some of these action items either redundant or not a priority anymore.

Self-confidence/Self-worth, self-satisfaction or self-fulfillment and self-sacrifice are 3 precious tools that we possess that no one can take it away. When we spend our time on a specific task actually we are sacrificing our time. We need to validate how does it improve our self-confidence/self-worth and self-satisfaction. When we perform actions in our professional career, we always like to gain self-confidence/self-worth an self-satisfaction. Our role in the family or the society is no different. Every relationship we build, every action we perform for the family and friends and every step we take to improve our professional skills, should be reviewed how it affects self-confidence and self-satisfaction. We have to build self-love in order to achieve this.

Frankly, if we perform actions to please others without feeling how it improves our incredible self-worth, we fail to expend the full energy such action deserves. A good relationship is how I feel about it as much as how others feel in that relationship. A healthy relationship comes from lack of pressure, inner happiness, healthy boundaries, transparent communication without worrying about emotions tied to it and so on.

Aiming perfection is equivalent to aiming an accurate result. Accurate results are not only produced by our best actions but also by other factors. If we aim for perfection, we fail to enjoy the processes involved in performing our actions. Aiming perfection affects our self-confidence and self-satisfaction. Qualitative improvement in our actions happen by how much we pay attention to the processes and how we learn from them. Actual measurement of good action has to be based on how much we enjoyed doing it more than what results it had produced. Perfection is a moving target and understanding that is essential for us to lead an ideal and purposeful life filled with love and light.
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Sir, I am always in awe of your posts and this one again touched my soul as I have also started on my spiritual journey about 2 years ago and still learning the alphabet. I strongly believe any change or growth should first start with inner self and then bring that self to union with outer world. What you said affirms my understanding and this inner work is critical to productivity w.r.t prioritizing, saying NO, managing to-do lists, scheduling down time etc... Your response is laying the ground work to implement the suggestions from Rihana and Gauri. I may have to journal more on all three of your responses and bring more cohesiveness to my thoughts. Thank you

NOW · Nov 11, 2021

MalStrom said: ↑

The most useful pieces of advice I got are that “no” is a complete sentence and that an invitation is not a summons.
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True ! It used it to be difficult for me to say no before. Now I am more upfront if I think I will not enjoy going to a gathering or event. I politely decline without even giving any reasons. It is so relieving to not make up excuses !

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