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My Problems With Mother Seema Un Ending

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by nolife, Mar 14, 2021.

  1. nolife

    nolife Silver IL'ite

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    Hi friends,
    How do you deal with emotionally and verbally abussive mother who keeps nagging you to the core and use you to voluntary benefits. Sometimes I am hetting a feeling that I will be happy without this women in life .. I am unable to move out due to remarriage not happening and stuck here due to job.. Any tips would help me.. I have been putting up with this women for 35 years and sometime just feel like either of us sjould die to be peaceful in moving forward.
     
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  2. Metamorphic

    Metamorphic Gold IL'ite

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    What makes you think you cannot live alone, in a different home, until your remarriage? Live separately and support her as & when needed. That would be a healthy option than wishing one of you to die, sorry, but seriously!
     
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  3. DDream

    DDream Platinum IL'ite

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    I agree with @Metamorphic . As you have job, try for transfer and relocation. You can live in hostel or explore other options. You will be fine. Only you can change your life.
    Many women face this situation when they stay with parents after divorce. They transfer their frustration this way.
    I remember a story in youtube. After divorce from abusive husband, she stayed with her family. But every one ,in one way or other blamed her for everything. But she( engineer by training)secretly applied for jobs far away from home. She got job but parents were against her move as she is not remarried. But she was so firm that she will move out. Finally they agreed. After a few years she met her current husband. She is now happy in every aspects.
    Sometimes, we have to ask ourselves what we want and take firm steps.
    In your case you can visit your mother or help her, but create a life for yourself. No other way.
    If you decide to stay with her, accept the situation, ignore her reactions, consider her as sick person, dont take her words to heart and focus on your life and happiness .

    Be strong
     
  4. nolife

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    Thank you somuch.

     

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