I have a host of inlaw issues, but today, I want to talk about my problem with my youngest brother's wife. Background: I have two brothers, both younger. None of us live in the same city. None of us see each other that frequently (maybe once every two years .. MAX). I am not particularly close to my brothers, leave alone their wives. Basically, I mind my own business as I have enough problems with my inlaws who keep me busy (and not in a good way). The problem started almost as soon as my brothers got engaged. They were married within a month of each other. Coincidentally (just my luck!), the girls both hailed from the same place as my inlaws. My MIL is a big gossip monger. She lost no opportunity to meet these girls' families and instantly began to BS them about me and my family. They seemed to become very close to her. Initially, this bothered me - because I knew very well that my MIL was talking all rubbish about my parents & me to these girls. But later on, I decided that since my brothers live in different cities, this would be NO problem. I was WRONG! The youngest brother's wife is a domineering young lady. Whatever - that's between her and her husband. But, she started poking her nose into my affairs. Whenever I visited my home town, I would spend half the time at my inlaws' house and the other half at my parents'. This girl asked me why I even came to my parents' house! I told her that I didn't have to explain myself to her and told my brother to tell her to mind her own business. She raised a BIG fuss and started crying (!) when my brother asked her how my vacation plans were any of her business. My brother got frustrated and yelled at me saying "She's crying ... BECAUSE OF YOU!" I told him she wouldn't have to cry if she just MINDED HER OWN DANG BUSINESS. Some examples of her behavior: We have the equivalent of the Rakhi festival (called Kanu) for which girls go to their mothers' house and spend time putting "Kanu" and then spending the rest of the day with their parents and esp. brothers. She told me that even if we had all lived in the same city, that she still wouldn't have wanted me visiting "her" house for Kanu because she would want to go to her parents' house for Kanu, too! Would have been fair enough EXCEPT THAT SHE'S AN ONLY CHILD WHO HAS NO BROTHERS. My husband never comes with me to my parents' house on Kanu day because HIS sister comes to our house on that day. When our parents celebrated my father's sixtieth birthday, she dominated the function with her cousin (she has no father and is close to her cousin). She picked a BIG fight with her co-sister (my other brother's wife) and she and her cousin ended up crying at the function itself (a very inauspicious thing to do) . Crying seems to come very easily to her. The BIGGEST issue came when I bought a house at the city that I live in (my MIL lives elsewhere). My MIL was unhappy and talked to SIL's mother (who is now her "best friend") about how I had influenced her son (my husband) into "abandoning" her by buying a house and settling down in another city. SIL's mother promptly asked MY mother how I could buy a house in another city and "abandon" my inlaws. When my mother told me this, I blew my top. I have had enough. I sent SIL an email, telling her that for the LAST AND FINAL TIME, she should MIND HER OWN BUSINESS AS SHOULD HER MOTHER. I told her that SHE has a house in another city (they don't live in the same city as my parents - see the hypocrisy!), that her precious cousin doesn't live with her inlaws (she bought a house about 5 kms away from her inlaws), her MOTHER has never lived with HER inlaws...so who are they to judge me and how is this any of their business? No response. NOTHING. Not a peep. A part of me is happy that I've finally put her in her place, although I am saddened that I may not see much of my brother anymore (not that we see that often but still, he's my brother). I wondering if anyone else has a similar issue here with interfering inlaws / family members and how they dealt with it? Thanks for sharing.