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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by makeuplover, Jun 28, 2012.

  1. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Makeuplover, I feel for you...

    I read that you are only venting out your frustration, but have a suggestion still - focus on retaining the maid. Make sure she doesn't run away. Whatever works - extra money, listening to her complaints, telling her you couldn't have managed without her, forming a support group with her... :)
     
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  2. Foundlove

    Foundlove Gold IL'ite

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    Give maid a bonus and tell her u will give more as soon as they leave. At least she will not leave you alone. Hang in there, their vacation will be over soon
     
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    AlishaT Silver IL'ite

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    U better act fast in finding out how long their vacation is going on until.. I hope it doesnt become a staycation and permanent house for them..

    Be realllly nice to ur maid. Shez all u got.

    Ur baby's interest is first.. if borders are crossed, prepare for war. :D
     
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    vini31 Gold IL'ite

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    hey i'd say ur maid is most imp person at this point .. more imp that your BIL, Co sis etc ... pls keep your maid happy, try showing your displeasure mildly, try n ensure they get the point that you do not like them staying with u and they should leave asap
     
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    veeramachaneni Platinum IL'ite

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    from how long they are staying at your place? Your daughters interests should be put ahead of any one else.
     
  6. makeuplover

    makeuplover Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks everyone for tim suggestions. The problem is that how long they will stay grub suspense. Co-sis is telling she wants to go to her place for rakshabandHan but that's is not sure. And its one month away. Yesterday she was specially nice with me,don't know why. I see her using my slippers,my hair clips,dupatta etc without asking me. She may be thinking that since I am like her sis by relation she can take freedom. But I don't. I don't take anyone's belongings without their permission and so I expect the same. May be its a bad thing since I am from a nuclear family and she is from a joint one.
     
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    ars Platinum IL'ite

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    Are you sure they are visiting? Looks like they have moved in with you.
    She is using your things and planing to visit mayaaka. Please clarify with your h. Your child welfare is more important than two adult brothers bonding and hanging out together.
     
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    MaritalBliss Platinum IL'ite

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    You have a gd maid but I just wanna let u know my experience with maids....

    They will leave one day...no matter how nice u are. I had a wonderful maid too but she had to leave as her husband asked her to come back. You can't totally depend on the maid.

    I was so dependant on my maid and when she left I was totally lost. Placed my kids in child care and they fell sick often, my Mil took care of them for 6 months and we had problems. Now I'm staying home...

    If u are tired just rest and sleep...dun cook. Since u can't tell yr DH anything, why bother...he will only get angry Wif u.

    My sis is having same problems and now her mil and sil left due to conflicts with the maid. Her DH is damn pissed with her now and her marriage is not doing well. Her maid's demands are ever increasing now and she is having a hard time.
     
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    tulipzz Platinum IL'ite

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    Slowly start getting your co sister to do some work. Sugar coat your words. Just tell her, didi can you please cut veggies by the time I come, so that it gets easy for me to cook? Tell her the maid doesn't cut properly ( take your maid into confidence)... One day tell her, didi I have my periods, so very bad backache. Can u please cook today?

    Keep increasing the work(to a reasonable level) so that they stop feeling like a guest.

    Remember to sugarcoat and play tactfully in front of your DH. Don't say any hurtful things even if you are super irritated. It will backfire.
     
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    makeuplover Silver IL'ite

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    Hi tulipz, I don't say anything to them.now my maid knows that she is important so she is showing her authority forgetting that whatever may be the case, she is our maid only. I am good with her but I cant take her orders to do like this and do like that. Its kind of dilemma for me whom to please now
     

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