Ok so we are same boat, i might be in worse as he is not sensitive about y work or responsibilitys towards work. One side he says, you are not competitve or learning, you need to be go-getter this that, Like yesterday i had emergency production issue in office. When its his case, kids are out of his sight or space. But in my case, i am speaking but kids are crawling around me and older one on purpose doing that when i am muting, screaming at top of my lungs and he also that why dont you lock door and put chair to lock it..let kids cry. Even when i lock, older one is on purpose letting younger one in...and making noise in my ears on my dsk while i am trying to speak and handle prod issue meeting. Then he is asking, did you solve it ? were you able to perform...hunh. When kids were on my head, i got panicked and could not talk so issue was given to someone else. While on call, i am warming dinner trying to feed and shower kids ,while he is browsing phone. thats my life. I want to go to counselling but i know that he won't listen and now, with pandemic, much harder leaving kids. I know root cause of her behaviour is us. Our respect towards each other. Most days i am also like, he goes to hell or whereever, i need to run the day and chores, cook feed, manage myself. But i lose when i am trying to pull the cart so hard and keep hitting the walls like my kiddos attitude or his. Moving older one to one of our room. None of us would be able to work. She does not want to move out of her room. H does not want to go to her room. Everyone works on big screen. I am the one with younger one in one hand & laptop in another move up/down/dinning table /in my room/kitchen/ in her room. Work and parenting - both suffering. Then again later at night, making her sit to do her homework. Also younger one - i manage and he stays with me so older one won't let me near by, basically won't let little one to come into her room so she will not let me.