My dear Dad where ae you

Mindian · Apr 18, 2008

sorry for your loss kanaka and indian flower too...u have paid him a great tribute by pouring your heart out...had tears in my eyes...felt like talking to dad just now...

Mindi

Kamalji · Apr 20, 2008

Dear Kanaka,

A wonderful ode to your Dad.He must be a great man.Helpful to everyone, and it is so unfortunate you could not meet him at the end.That must be the biggest regret, as i can very well understand.

And i must say this, you are a deserving daughter of a great father.How many people remember their parents with love.You are special.Regards.kamal

mithila kannan · Apr 20, 2008

Dear Kanaka,
Your words of Tribute to your father moved me.What a wonderful man he must have been to be loved so much by his near and dear.I can understand how much you must be missing him.But he passed away without any pain or hospitalisation.
Since he always wanted to help the needy,you also emulate him.Do something which your father would have felt proud of.
All the best.
mithila kannan

kanaka Raghavan said: ↑

Ihope all the Il ladies would not mind me penning a few words about my father.I would be grateful to have your patient reading and feedback on this.
My father passed away this year in February at the age of 80.People might say what is there to mourn about ,he is lived a full life.But a father is a father...
My father was from an ordinary family ,he strived hard and keep it to very good postion.He married my mother as my grandfather said.She is a very very innocent lady always harrassed by her own brothers and father.She was from very rich family.My father bore all the humiltions imposed by his brothers in law.In fact later on in family when they became paupers,helped them all.He helped all his 6 brothers as well.He always used to tell us we cannot justify ourselves if we behave like them.He fulfilled the duty of son till the end.He even performed his mother's ceremony 20 days before he died.He took care of my mother when she was in coma for 45 days and brought her back to life.None of her relatives turned up.
Being the youngest I was very close to him.As my mother hardly knew anything,he taught us what a mother should teach the daughters.Anything we want he was there was for us.Whenever he used to return from his trips ,his box used to be full of nice dresses for each one of us.He never missed any ocassion.Even his friends and relatives got it to be remembered.He was one who used to stories from Ramayana and Mahabarata to us everyday evening.
Every week there was a call to all the people he knew.Any occasion or function ,he would go if he is able to,inspite of us grumbling.Any one had a grandchild immediately he would send a wooden table ware bearing"Happiness is being a grandparent'.He found time to send kumkum prasadam for kumadam prathinai club for many years .
He never watched any programme which my mother disliked.As she does not follow English well he used to watch whatever she did.He even used make his own coffee maker lest he should awake her at 3 a..m.
He was very delighted with his granchildren.My daughter used to spend 3 hrs every Sunday to have literary discussions with him.He used wait for us to come.I vividly remember that he used to give us money to spend on books every time we came to chennai from Coimbatore.He loved crossword .
He was faithfully to the Group he was with and worked till the day before he died.
He wanted all of us study and he said that age is no bar for studying.He completed his MBA few days before my sister got married.
He used to contribute regularly for charities some of which we came to know only after his death.
when his younger brothers died,he kept asking why do we come in order and go in another.
He was very very thrilled when I joined IL.In fact he learnt to operate the comp so that he can be in touch with his nephews ,nieces and friends who were abroad.
I could not attend his funeral as I was in Abu dhabi and my husband was not allowed to travel.His wish was to cremate with in 3 hours after his death.He died on Thai poosam .No sickness,no hospitilisation,Just instant death.
He was very very postive man and there was never negative word from his mouth.
I long to hear his voice,touch him.but where are u father?........As he used to say shadow of death passes away like cloud..........but not for us...........Oh Father I really miss you.................He never liked us to cry but what can I do?
Thank you IL for allowing to pen my thoughts...........................
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Arunarc · Apr 20, 2008

Dear Kanaka
That was a beautiful tribute to your dad. He really lived his life to the fullest. Father is always a father no one can take his place. May his soul rest in peace.

lakshmi05 · Apr 20, 2008

Hi Kanaka,

I too lost my dear dad last year. After reading your tribute, just i cant control myself.
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You are a wonderful daughter to a great father.

May his soul rest in peace.

Lakshmi.

Kamla · Apr 30, 2008

Dear KanakaRaghavan,

I might be way late in writing this feedback to your initial post. I had missed it earlier and was made aware of it by Kamalji who has nominated it for the Finest Post. Thanks to him, I got to read this soul stirring post by you.

Kanaka, your father was really a wonderful person and you have every right to be missing him to this day. So sorry that you could not be there to say your last farewell to him. I can understand as I too was not there for my father. These are the very costly price we pay for opting to live abroad.

All I can think of saying is...take heart in the fact that he did not suffer from ill health in his last days. That really is a great blessing. Also, I always think that they look upon us from whereever they are, our loved and departed ones. If they see us happy, that must be happiness for them too.

I am so moved.

L, Kamla

Nakshatraa · Apr 30, 2008

Dear Kanaka,
That was a very touching post. I'm really at loss of words to console you.
As ms.Kamala has rightly pointed out, he had spent his last days peacefully.
Don't worry dear, you father is always with you.
You can always feel him everywhere.....

JayaJ · Apr 30, 2008

Dear Kanaka,

I am sorry to hear abt your father passing away.
Please be strong.

kanaka Raghavan · Apr 30, 2008

Dear friends
Thank you for your nice and warm replies.I am simply touched...............Thank you all.

prabhabala · Sep 10, 2008

Hi kanaka,

Tears are flowing from my eyes that I am not able to even see the keyboard.
I feel very very sad that he is no more.
ur post has really moved me.

u should continue to do all the good things that he had done in his life.

prabha