Mother's-in-law Day!

sathya · May 17, 2008

hello sri

whats going on....?
athe thalaippa
ennru thigaikka
i find my answer
on the first page first....

whatever it is sri
mils are the best topic
whereever
and IL is also one such..

kondattam thaan
intha re run kku
irukkum replies
almost three pages
first slot kku irukkavillaye...

give her(MIL) a chance
ladies and gentleman
enru
sollamal sollivitteergal...
irunthaalum pona varudam
kondadavillaya 28/10?

sathya

Cheeniya · May 17, 2008

Dear Satya
I did not repost this! How would I considering all the MIL-bashing that goes on here?!
Thanks for visiting it again and grace it with your poetic reply in your inimitable style!
Sri

Mindian · Jan 12, 2009

dear cheeniya sir,

i hope it is ok to dig up old posts..whenever i feel the need for a dose of humor,i turn to your blogs and i am happy to say i never return disappointed.....
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i loved this post...why not indeed but i always thought anyone who celebrated mothers day with great fanfare would do so for the MIL also or at least make sure that the spouse does something special for his/her mother.

i loved it when u said your mother and mil are like sisters..even when i was a kid my friends house,both her grandmothers used to always visit at the same time so that they would have each others company...i used to find it so nice..

and u exactly echo my thoughts when u mention that it is a tear jerker when there is a hitler mil and a sufferring dil but a comedy when it is a timid sil and a stern mil...Big Laugh.why so,i have never understood

In all these cases, have you noticed one significant factor? The father-in-law is always a non-entity. He usually belongs to the opposition but does not want to profess so openly. In the midst of sinister episodes, he remains hidden behind The Hindu making every one wonder what exactly is his role in the entire drama. He has a good word for his daughter-in-law when his wife is not around. He wears perpetually that caged- rat look. If you ask me, he is the one who ought to be figuring in all the jokes. The irony of it all is that the entire servant folk of the house, though paid by the husband, remain on the side of the lady in command.

:rotfl:rotflso agree with u, actually i realized that i have never even
noticed the fil in such movies..surely he deserves more credit:rotfl

very entertaining post sir
regards
Mindi

Cheeniya · Jan 14, 2009

Dear Mindi
To tell you the truth, it is double ok for you to dig my old posts!
That gives me a chance to reassess my thinking on the subject and if I have any new thoughts I can always add them to my replies! I am glad you like this post and are generally in agreement with the views expressed!

My 95 year old mum and 85 year mil are not only like sisters but they profess so and call each other so! If you think that this bonhomie has been brought about by their advanced age, I must tell you that they have remained so ever since my marriage 41 years back in 1967! Of course, there was an initial period of mutual caution and an attempt at 'oneupmanship' or should I say 'one up womanship' but they did not take too long to settle down!

Fil is like the background music of a movie. You notice it only in horror scenes and when there is intense pathos. In normal scenes, it goes totally unnoticed!
Sri

iyerviji · Jan 17, 2009

Dear Cheeniya Sir

Glad to know that your mil and mother are like sisters. Very rarely you can find like this. It will be great to celebrate MIL's day and MIL will be also very happy when she is given importance which she always needs.

My MIL was there only for two years after my marriage. My husband was her pet and she was very possessive of him as he was born after five daughters. My husband used to say that she and me are like his two eyes.
He has to give importance to both of us. So he used to keep both of us happy and I also as far as possible used to adjust with her. A woman should know the knack of winning her MIL's heart. Then she can live happily with her.

Regards
Viji

Padmasrinivas · Jan 17, 2009

Dear Cheeniya sir,

I too am in the habit of digging up your old posts, this time Mindi pipped me to the post! (pun intended)...

I rather like the idea of celebrating MIL's Day, guess why?
Two reasons, first and most important, my MIL (who passed away 4 years ago), was a delightful person, quite unlike the much-maligned, stereo-typical figure portrayed in films and TV serials. She considered me as her daughter, I fine-tuned the art of cooking tasty dishes with her help, the difference between materialism and spirituality, her timely quotes from the Bhagavad-Gita guiding me in times of distress or doubt. Oh-oh, this is getting a bit too serious, specially after your humourous blog on MILs, I'd better change tracks...

The second reason: I am now a MIL in my own right and quite happy to declare it from the rooftops! I do not in any way qualify to play the role of the cliched Saas in the Saas-bahu serials, Thank God! You have my dear DIL to vouch for me (have no fear, I haven't bribed or softened her up in any way!).

(Cheeniya Sir, my dear departed FIL was a complete anti-thesis of the 'hiding behind the Hindu' model, we used to tremble when he roared!)

BTW, you have 2 years on me by way of our respective WA...

Padma

Vysan · Jan 18, 2009

Dear Sri,

I cant say about Oppressive MIL and poor SIL... or MIL and DIL.... I couldnt control my laugh, when you said about the FIL... hahahaahahaha... I enjoyed the movie... Poova thalaya... would have seen atleast a dozen times... hahahahahaha...

But I agree with you in full, that we should have MIL' Day...

Veda

Cheeniya · Jan 18, 2009

Dear Viji
You have indeed given a wonderful recipe for the peaceful coexistence of MIL and DIL. in your statement that " A woman should know the knack of winning her MIL's heart. Then she can live happily with her."

I find from time to time serious grievances being expressed in this forum about the MIL-DIL relationship and suggestions given by other ILites about how to deal with such problems. Persons like you who have successfully handled this issue in their lives must provide detailed tips for combating this growing menace!
Sri

Cheeniya · Jan 18, 2009

Dear Padma
For many of the ILites who are weighed down with the pressures of overbearing MILs, hearing you talk of your MIL in such a wonderful way must come as both a surprise and a welcome change. What is more significant is your own commitment to treat your DIL on the level. It is nice to see that the excellent relationship that you had with your MIL is reflected in your own relationship with your DIL.

A roaring father in law must surely rank as the Eighth Wonder of the World! Whenever I open my mouth to roar, it comes out as a mere whimper! Of course I do make up for this deficiency in me through some loud sneezing occasionally and I feel better!

Nice to hear that you are not far behind in our WA!
Sri