Let's leave out the "get the child married and settled" from the parenting task list. Then, the parenting journey is bookended by the "trying to have or adopt a baby" stage and the "send the child off to college" stage. I have come to realize that parenting involves a lot of research. A few examples of the research: Talking to the doctor about trying-to-conceive. Looking up fertility treatments if needed. Evaluating the adoption option if needed. Pregnancy, childbirth, and early baby care research. Daycare choices Is baby meeting milestones. Is toddler ready for preschool. Which kind of school for 5 year old. Child is watching too much tv, iPad? Child does not have friends? Child has behavior issues. Child not reading yet, not counting yet, not singing yet Activities for child. Does child need a sibling? Summer camps. What age to start swimming? Too late already? Is child eating enough nutritious food? Are we spending enough time with child? How to talk to the child about starting/stopping this habit? How to help child deal with bullies? How to supplement school studies? Evaluate school choice every year or so, change it? Is child over-loaded with activities? Math Olympiad? Join martial arts? Pause dance class? Child does not speak mother-tongue or even father-tongue! OMG! How to talk to child's teacher about this/that issue? How to help child improve writing skills? Hire a tutor for a subject? Science project for school - how to help but not take over? How to get dad to help with science project without child ending up in tears? Teenager - how to be a parent, not a friend? High school - help child explore college, career options High school - moody child, stressed child - get help from where? Is that help helping or hurting? That list is incomplete. Just typing it makes me want to go take a long nap. Question: Do moms do most of the research and information gathering involved in parenting? If yes, why does that happen? What makes the job of the primary researcher fall on the mom for the almost two decades of parenting? .