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Mismatch?????

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by shakambari, Jun 28, 2009.

  1. shakambari

    shakambari Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi all,

    How ever much we adjust ourselves with our spouse there are times when

    we feel "THATS IT . THIS IS A MISMATCH"...

    Have u ever felt like that?

    If so , what made u feel like that?
     
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  2. april1981

    april1981 Gold IL'ite

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    Oh yes i have felt it many times and have promptly told him so.
     
  3. ayeshanaaz

    ayeshanaaz Junior IL'ite

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    Yes, I have also felt it when he does things that people of my cast would dare not do it.

    Actually we belong to differst sub-castes. He follows all those rituals, which I can't even dream of doing (cause it is believed to be cursed in my caste). But seeing your husband do it, is really painful.

    Though I have accepted this to an extent but still I find ourselves a MISMATCH on this particular ground.

    Regards
    Ayeshanaaz
     
    Last edited: Jun 29, 2009
  4. Chandrika82

    Chandrika82 Silver IL'ite

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    Oh yes... its not life threatening in my case, but there are small little things that would make me irritate and sometimes get escalated into a full blown fight..

    Sample this. I prefer getting seated in a movie theater atleast 5 min before start of the movie. I want to watch all the ads, the trailers and never miss the opening of the movie.

    My DH is just the opposite. He would never ever make it to a movie on time, never mind ahead of time ! This would seem trivial but it gets on my nerves everytime. Its not just the movie, the basic problem is i like being punctual and he is always late :rant

    Well, short term solution i made up is.. if a movie starts at 7, i tell him its at 6:30..so we'll reach the place by atleast 6:45 :cheers
     
  5. shakambari

    shakambari Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks for the fbs-April, Ayeshanaaz and Chandrika...

    As u rightly put it - as long as the issue is not life threatening, fine learn to brush it aside and get along..

    Best- talk it out.
     
  6. mlk2009

    mlk2009 Bronze IL'ite

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    I have felt it so many times.
    I love romance, comedy movies
    he loves war, life history movies
    I want the house to be loud and active and fun
    he wants it to be quiet, solemn and no noises of any kind.
    i love NV food
    he loves veg food
    i love to go out and party with friends
    he loves to stay home with his laptop
    i love to spend money and enjoy life
    he loves to save save and save every penny

    so everyday i think we are mismatched ...
     
  7. shakambari

    shakambari Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi Mlk2009,

    Saw ur list...

    But are they all not ultimately trivial shortfalls ?
     
  8. AkilaMani

    AkilaMani Local Champion Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi shakambari,

    yes mlk's list seems to be what u say as trivial shortfalls.

    as for myself, i hv never once felt that ours is a mismatch. on the contrary, i feel that we r made for each other. of course, we hv totally different tastes and likes and have difference of opinion on lot of things, but we deeply respect each others views.

    i truely hope, those who feel that theirs is a mismatch, rise above the trivialities and take a broader look at life. at the end of the day, it is love and compassion for each other that really matters, not the movies u watch or food u like.
     
    Last edited: Jul 2, 2009
  9. shakambari

    shakambari Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks for ur fb, Akila.

    That too a very positive one.:)
     
  10. kajol123

    kajol123 New IL'ite

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    Hi shakambari ..
    my dh says as we both of different opinions so its a mismatch which i really dont agree to this no individuals are alike ..
     

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