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MIL not giving my husband's astrochart (jhathakam)

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by shwethag, Apr 11, 2007.

  1. shwethag

    shwethag Bronze IL'ite

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    I need an idea. From last 3 years I am trying very hard to convince my MIL to give me my husbands astrological chart(i.e jatakam). She has been making excuses.One of her excuses is she does not want me to show our jatakam to any astrologer but the strange thing is she has been showing to somebody and also not ready to disclose all the facts. But my SIL has her husbands chart which my MIL also has a copy. One rule for me and one rule for SIL anybody wondering why? :evil: sometimes I wonder is there some problem that she is keeping from me. My husband does not believe in astrology so it is even more hard to convince my MIL.
    I will be visiting India in 2 months I thought of at least finding the time he was born. If you could give me some ideas I would be very great full.
    Thanks in advance.
     
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  2. krishnaamma

    krishnaamma Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: I need an idea

    Hi Shwethag,

    I have a doubt. Before marriage you have checked for 'Jadhaka porutham'? Is it not? So your parents must have the copy. Why dont you try with your parents? or now why dont you ask about the 'jadhakam' through your parents.

    Like, to show to some one else or something like they want to check about their SIL that is your husband's future, like that make some reasons and through your mom and dad ask for the Jadhakam. ( for 'new house purpose' or about 'want to know about issues')

    I think I helped something.:)
     
  3. ksv

    ksv Senior IL'ite

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    Dear Swetha,

    I would like to go with krishnamma..

    Surely ur parents must be having a copy of ur husbands jathakam.. u can get it from them..

    do not panic.. all ur difficulties will come to an end soon..

    regards
    ksv
     
  4. Vidya24

    Vidya24 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi Swetha,

    I know a friend who faced a similar situation. If you really want to get a copy of your husband's horoscope, these are my suggestions:

    1) Request your MiL, for the last time, very firmly and politely, that you would like to have a copy of your husband's horoscope. For filing it, to seek astrological advice, to do spiritual remedies during unfavourable times. Tell her that this is the last time you ask her for this.

    2) If she still refuses and delays, gently remind her that your SiL has a copy of her husband's and hence you would like to follow that custom too.

    3) If MiL still refuses, then either she is being non-cooperative, or there is something in the horoscope that she wants to conceal.

    4) Try getting a copy of your husband's birth certificate from the civic body of the place where he was born. My birth certificate has time of birth.

    5) Another suggestion is to visit the hospital where your husband was born, show your identity and get the time of birth. Once you have the time, you can walk into any astrologer's house or computer centre and get the horoscope cast.

    Goodluck!

    regards
    Vidya
     
  5. vivbass

    vivbass Gold IL'ite

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    hi ,
    u ask ur hubby his time of birth or casually to ur fil instead of asking ur mil,then if u know the time then it'll be easy to have horoscope from computer center.
    hope nothing wrong in ur hubby's horoscope.:2thumbsup:
     
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    shwethag Bronze IL'ite

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    Thanks a lot all you guys. Sorry I forgot to mention our marriage got fixed in a hurry i.e in a month. My parents don't have the horoscope I wish they did. My mother tried to ask my MIL last year twice, mom said she wanted to get some puja done but my MIL said she would not give directly. Me and my mother tried telling we wanted to show our horoscope to one astrologer whom we knew from long time. But she said, she did not want us to show to anybody else. Once I even tried telling I will not show it to anybody but I just need it for my record this I time my husband was there. But my effort went in vain.
    Thanks for the idea vidya but there is a problem the hospital where my husband was born is near to my Mil house to top it all the doctor is very close to my in laws.Who visits them frequently . The whole town knows my in-laws so cannot go to any government office. And also my husband has no clue about the time he was born. I asked my Mil once about the time she said somewhere around 7.30 No am or pm. Once by mistake one of my husbands aunt who lives with my in laws mentioned about some problem in my hubby's horoscope but no details. Now what I am so disturbed about all of these. Some times I wish I knew what the problem was so i could do some thing.

    Shwetha
     
  8. Vidya24

    Vidya24 Gold IL'ite

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    Shweta,

    From your posts, it appears that it is not easy to get your husband's horoscope or time of birth. May I suggest something. Leave this matter to the universe, leave it to the mercy of God. God will show you the way. Either you will get the horoscope or you will not- either way consider it as God's will.

    My maternal grand father was a very good astrologer, though he was a chartered accountant by profession. My horoscope has been plotted with much care and detail. And till I was 25+, my grandfather used to give me almost weekly predictions and I would run my life by his words. My husband does not believe in horoscopes at all. And in the past years, we have had many troubles that were not manifest in our horoscopes or palm lines or horaries.

    My point being whatever has to happen - good or bad will happen by the dictate of fate and God. Sometimes, it is peaceful not to have the horoscope and look at it regularly.(I understand your need to have atleast one look at your husbands chart, I am not trivialising that at all). In the past seven years, I do not take my chart to any astrologer. I do not even read any predictions or do pariharams. I put all my faith in God, I have surrendered to Him and my life is by His will. Let me emphasise that both good and bad still happen in my life, but for some reason, my horoscope free life is peaceful.

    Leave this matter in God's able Hands, in His KAravalambam. Let Him decide if you should get it or not.

    As for MiL, join the club, we all have some petty grouse about ours, so it is the law of nature. Enjoy your stay in India with your husband.

    regards
    Vidya
     
  9. Kamla

    Kamla IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Shwetha,

    I think Vidya has given you a very sound advice in her second post. It is said that our life is patterned on our past Karmas. I don't even agree to that sometimes, but that is another matter altogether.
    You are now married and settled in the US I see. Your husband does not seem to believe in horoscopes. So why do you want to dig up things about which you are in ignorance anyways? Ignorance is bliss. Place all your trust in God. He is the Almighty and He is the one who already has all the plan for your lives. So pray to Him with peace and trust and He will look after you all.
    I for my part wish you all the best and loads of luck.

    L, Kamla
     
  10. shwethag

    shwethag Bronze IL'ite

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    Thanks for the advice it was nice sharing my thoughts with you. Hopefully I can forget about the horoscope and get on with my life.
    I love this forum. :)

    Shwetha
     

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