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Mid-Life Crisis - What are your thoughts?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by uma, Jan 14, 2007.

  1. uma

    uma Senior IL'ite

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    I heard about this concept of mid-life crisis only after coming to the US. I deeply wonder whether mid-life crisis is a physiological reality that is common to men/women everywhere or is it a by product of the social practices here?

    Will we also be struck with mid-life crisis if we stay in the US when we are in the mid to late forties?
     
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  2. radhavenkatesh

    radhavenkatesh Silver IL'ite

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    never knew of such thing, after ur post i jst tried to google abt it and found amazing facts :idea: was shocked first then started analyising
    maybe in every persons life such transition period wud come but how one deals wht tht is the issue .
    help wud be required frm spouses and frm family frns and society also i beleive
    this topic shd be explained clearly because most of them dont knw wot midlife crisis is and how to deal wth it reading such threads wud be benificial to many
    please come forward wht a clear picture to many people to respond
     
  3. vidyasarada

    vidyasarada Senior IL'ite

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    Dear Uma
    Mid Life Crisis , Male Menopause, Empty Nest Syndrome are all fancy names cooked up in the west to explain very natural changes that one encounters as one ages. Now its becoming fashionable in India too to use these terms to explain away any sort of stress or problem a person above 40-45 encounters.

    Accepting life as it comes is an art in itself. Preconcieved notions and expectations frequently give rise to surprises and disappointments. In the East, people are more stoical, more philosophical and learn to adapt to every change life brings. In the west, changes, especially uncomfortable changes play havoc with the person's sense of control and hence everything is seen as a crisis.

    We dont have to conform to these labels. If we do our share of sensible planning, learn to accept what we cannot change and rely on our inner strenghth( call it God if you like), there is really no need worry about such threatening phrases.
    Cheers.
    Vs
     
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    radhavenkatesh Silver IL'ite

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    maybe we indians deal wht such crisis better bcz we have a traditional approach towards life , some sort of poojas we do in our house hold attach us to pooja rooms maybe after our mid thirties many ppl who r nastiks turn out to be astiks also , by tht age we wud have faced many ups and downs in life and start realising life is not a bed of roses we try to gain confidance frm god by meditation and purifying our thougths boosting our inner strength.
    our lifestyle eating habits and being social and friendly to neighbours takes most of our empty time . whn we r young we do have many aspirations but as age advances we try to neglect them or even postpone or forget many of our desires which might create a vacum slowly.
    i sometimes feel this net is a stupid thing
    many of the so called SW ppl r more tuned to net wht which they start frnsps wht many and start neglecting their spouses or their expectations increase many ppl who r not using net much r really happy wth their ignorance bcz the medium of communication is limited . IF u see the sms and use of cell phones sometimes we need to give the credit of disatisfaction frm spouses wth them also bcz hubby dear is busy wht work and wife darling is busy wht smsg some guy she met on net or viceversa
    lack of communication between family members and bedroom becoming only a media for body hunger is spoiling the families . in so many households the ladies r so busy wht their television serials to while away their idle time tht they forget the kids and husband also whn they come home and kids start watching their channels and husband has his own channels to watch so wotever free time available is utilised by the whole family in different methods rather than sitting and chattg the days work over and discussing their family matters a distance in family starts disatisfaction .
    its time we ppl wakeup and protect ourselves frm all such crisis .
     
  5. Varloo

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    Hai Vidyasarada,
    you are right. We have deep religious and spiritual roots to hold us on during difficult times. We believe that this is the will of the God and accept even great calamities in life and come out stronger. So it is not needed for us people. Nowadays everything gets a name and is discussed elaborately. We should learn to discard the unnecessary things, that is all.
    The West has the 7 year itch-married for 7 years and you are prone to separate or have an affair. We have seen many marriages still going strong even after earth shattering problems. What do you say?
     

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