Dear Sridher, I think I have gotten to get a liking for your writing. Thanks for that. i am really enjoying it. I just read this story. Very touching. I guess DILs come in all shapes and sizes and MILs come in all shapes and sizes as well. Combinations and stories are plentiful. Here I would like to share my own experience as a DIL. My husband is an only son. However he is far from a mother's boy. In fact he is far from anyone's boy but himself. He had been away from his family since very young and had been on his own all his life when he married me, But he basically had good values. Else he would not have told me that his parents are old and they will be with us until they die when he first met me after our marriage was arranged. After our marriage, we had to be in the US for about 8 months but I had. made it clear that I do not want to live any longer thah necessary in the US and want to return to Singapore where we wanted to setup our family (Both of us are Singaporeans). My In-laws came to be with us in the US for a while in which time I realised how possessive she was, She hated it when we went out on our own. She hated it when I cooked something and he said it was nice. She will barge into our room when we are in bed... the list goes on. When she behaved this way my husband would show his frustration by screaming at her and when I tried to calm him, he would scream at me and in the end the whole thing will be depressing. After he goes to work, my MIL would sy that her son was never like this and barely a month after I got married I have changed him and turned him against him. I did not use to talk back as I was too scared. Time passed, we came back to Singapore, setup our home and got my in-laws (then in Malaysia) to come and live with us. I was already pregnant and working and I wanted somebody to be home. Though my parents, brothers and SILs were there itself, I gave importance for my parents in law. When my son was born, the possessiveness of my MIL increased 7 folds. She took good care of him but I was not even allowed to have him by my side at night. She stopped me from giving milk for my son saying that it was bad for him as I was not there during the day (I was working) She would makes such a big fuss if my parents and brothers visited as she thought that my son will enjoy their company better than hers. I did not even go back to my parent's home (even though they were in the same town) for 3 years as she would not let me take my child. After that I had 2 abortions and never had a child because of what I went through for the first. Whenever I tried to communicate with my husband I got no sympathy but he would shout at his mother, shout at me and then think that his responsibility is over. He needed a wife but he could not get it from me partly because I was trying to please my In-laws and partly because his mother made it hell. He then went on to focus his attention in his business. He set up a business in India and moved to India. It was not easy as he realised later that it is very difficult for people from overseas to run business in India. We had made commitments in Singapore that was only supported by me. So I live in Singapore with my In-laws and son. My in-laws refuse to move in with the son in India. But I take care of them because of the word I gave to my husband before my marriage. I have become bolder. I do put my foot down when they misbehave, but they always know that I am dependable and that they will not get a better consideration from their son. When my FIL had a heart condition last year. I stayed with him in the ICU for 3 days and nights.When my MIL messed up after being hospitalised, I stayed with her and cleaned her up. I still get stupid remarks from my MIL like my husband has changed after the marriage and my husband only cares for me and eqully stupid remarks from my husband that I care about his parents more than I care for him. Then when he sees me arguing with his mother he says I do no respect his mother. I am used to these dumb remarks now. I ignore them and move on. I look at the bright side. My husband is a very good man with good values. My MIL adores my son and my FIL is a good man, So what is there for me to keep in heart. Today I can easily join my husband in one fight he has with his parents and move them out. Then what? Will I be able live with myself with the guilt? There is something called Karma. What goes around comes around. I want to do the right thing and I want my son to grow up as a man of values. And values start with us. I hold a good position in a foreign bank but I am a good DIL at heart. Not because my MIL told me so last weekend that she could not get a better DIL (because that might change next week because something goes wrong) but because I believe in it. Someday they will all realise but even if they do not I am OK with that. My Karma kadan will speak for itself.