YM my dad is one of those spineless men. He is truely like shiva of this story. My dad is a very good human,he is very hard working, he has many chronic ailments. Our family is doing very good because of his efforts. He is in his 60s badly sick but still more energetic then me and my brother. He is a very spiritual person. He says there is God in every human. When my dad was in his teens my dads elder brothers made a plan to murder him to get his share of property, but my dad has been still very kind to them. But I do not know where his kindness went when it came to my mom. My father has never supported my mom openly and still my mom admires him like god. I have told mom many times if I were you I could have left dad long time back even though he has always been a very good father but he has always been a very spineless husband. When we have children no body teaches us how love them and raise them but I do not know why some indian men have to be tought to love and respect their wives. Life would be so easy for everyone if men learn how to balance relations.