Hello ladies, Thank you for reading my post and your advice would be much appreciated. My wedding is scheduled for February 2017, after finally (after much drama) convincing my BF parents. Initially my BF and I met in a arranged marriage setting, however his parents were not keen on proceeding with the match due his older sister, who is now in her late 30s, still not being married, plus the parents in general (which I found out later to be very greedy and quiet manipulative). However, my BF fell in love with me at first sight & I reciprocated the same feeling as well, hence we swapped numbers and stayed in touch over the past 1 year and gradually feel even more in love. Recently this August, his parents agreed to our marriage, I was overjoyed, nevertheless my happiness was short-lived, as troubles began again. His parents insisted that the marriage talks should only proceed through the match maker, hence the match maker started acting as the middle man. My BF's parents told the match maker that they would like my parents to give me almost 1.5kgs of gold, 5 kgs of silver, furniture for the US house, along with 400 grams of gold set for his sister (it is in our tradition that we give the future sister in-law a gift at the time of the wedding), also some property in my name, along with a grand engagement & wedding. My BF's parents insisted that this is not dowry, rather "gifts," but we knew better. My BF's parents always showed off that they were people of high morals, hence they would never take dowry, but this was clearly a lie for the general public. My parents are currently in the process of negotiating these dowry demands with them, when I found out and I was surprised and angered at the same time. I grew up in the US since I was 6 years old to a very conservative family; at the same time I know how to stand my ground. After hearing the dowry demands, I called my BF to ask if this was true. My BF is current on a holiday to India to visit his parents, so I called the landline to speak to him regarding this, he didn't warn me that the landline was on speaker, so his mother heard everything & shouted in the background "how dare you speak to us like this & we could have got more from anyone else." I think it's fair to say she was pissed & I was embarrassed that she heard our conversation as it was meant to be between me & my BF only. I've waited over a year for the match to progress this far, even though I was aware my BF's parents hate me, I love him truly, hence I kept fighting for our love, but at every turn the parents are making it impossible for us to be together. My question now is my BFs mother is pissed off at me for my forward questioning of their dowry demands (they feel insulted with the word dowry begin used, but would prefer "gifts"), and she may even call off the wedding. Should I keeping fighting for my love or cut my loses and run, as progressing further can be very difficult? I’m very confused and torn at the moment. Your advice would be very useful. Thank you.