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low sex drive

Discussion in 'Health Issues' started by teddy12321, Mar 8, 2010.

  1. teddy12321

    teddy12321 New IL'ite

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    Hi All

    Do any one have any suggestions or steps to be followed to solve the low sex drive or to over come less Libido???
     
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  2. Mahanu

    Mahanu Silver IL'ite

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    What is causing you this problem? Is it only now or from the begining?
     
  3. teddy12321

    teddy12321 New IL'ite

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    Hi Mahanu..
    I dont know... iam a 6 months old married gal..
    i guess initially i was ok but not much..
    I dont know.. i am not much interested in having sex, some times i feel irriated when my husband tries to do something..iam not liking it...but i luv him a lot.. i wanna solve this prob..
     
  4. Mahanu

    Mahanu Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Teddy,

    Your aversion for sex, after initial interest, may be due to stress or worrying about something constantly. If you really have some problems, solve them first. In case of stress, try to change your daily schedules or life style, so that you can lower your stress levels.

    You may also have low sex drive due to some physical problem in having sex, like pain during intercourse, not able to get penetrated fully, etc. In such case, consult a doctor, so that the problem is solved as soon as possbile and you can enjoy your life.

    Best wishes.
     
  5. teddy12321

    teddy12321 New IL'ite

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    Hi Mahanu...
    what u said is correct.. the thing is my hubby has become a little more fat which i dont like.. i use to tell him not to ve sweets daily and he never do the exercises properly n regularly, Which was disappointing me a lot. one more reason is no HoneyMoon :cry::cry::cry::cry: even now he dont ve time, we didnt had a good time having oly fun...

    now i am least bothered coz he never gonna care to maintain his body or to look sexier for my eyes... he will not change.. oly i have to do something or accept him completely, coz ii really wanna baby and would love to have it.... Actyually i have changed more and will try to change completely.

    Mahanu... i have even tried to search for a vaseya marundu for myself...bt i didnt get it. want anymedition which will make me forget myself when he want something frm me.

     
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    hi all,
    I ll initially explain my past & present & problems too. Thanks for your patience. Ur patience and reply is worth my life. Thanks
    Iam married for 1 year now. it was arranged marriage. But we liked each other on phone conversations and spoke long time & got married. It was not at all by force.I was given all freedom on earth to accept or reject the proposal.
    Am a mod urban girl brought up in Bangalore who had many friends and was very good at flirting too but had never had any Love affairs though flirting with a guy had reached heights but never had fallen in love or proposed that guy and also rejected his proposal becus i was reluctant abt his family. He also got married now and still on my FB. I was given all freedom by parents but i myself did not want to fall in love keeping 'my parents given freedom to me 'in mind.
    I got married & came to US and since then am deeply in love with my DH and he's just the Gem of a person and he loves me even more.
    I am not that busy with work here though i was working with an MNC back in Blore. Having said all these,
    my problem is.....
    I have very less sex drive, lower libido. I don't enjoy sex , I don't open up much, I try to be conscious & alert and don't loose myself. This is very wrong and ll surely hurt my relationship with my hubby if continues for long.
    Please ppl out here, help me to overcome this. Is this all happening because am free minded (empty mind devil workshop) or have a serious problem .Trusting in you ILites. Please help.
     
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    Are you using oral contraceptive pills or any other medication for any health issue? If so, this can be a possible reason.
     
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  8. Mahanu

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    Hi Shree,

    Did you have a normal libido before marriage or initially after marriage? If yes, it may be due to reason that your hubby and you are having different idea / approach to sex. That is the expectations you had about sex before marriage is not matching with reality. Since his actions are not as per your idea of sex, it may also kill your libido. You can do a self analysis of this aspect and have an open discussion with your hubby, so that you two are able to understand each other's fantasies and desired approach to intimacy.

    Also, analyze your lifestyle, major events that happened after your marriage, particularly between you and your hubby or his family members. Sometimes, some things which you did not like about your hubby or his relatives may enter your subconscious mind and block intimacy with your husband, eventhough he is a nice person. If you do not have any such issues, it is always better to consult a doctor instead of worrying, which will solve your problem for sure and you can enjoy your married life.

    You can also watch some romantic / x-rated movies together, which may also bring the desired effect in both of you.

    Initial years of marriage is the most enjoyable, particularly in physical intimacy. So don't waste time. Take action to set right your problem immediately and enjoy life to the fullest.
     

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