Leave Her Alone - Part One

Myliltwincesses · Oct 10, 2019

Rihana said: ↑

@Myliltwincesses, very well-written. Your taking the time and effort to write this series is worth appreciating. I was struck by how you gently explained your points without undue judging or blaming.

True. They should try to give suggestions only when asked for, and once done with giving suggestion, back off, don't try to ensure that those are followed.

Once again, you say it so peacefully and briefly. There are fathers/husbands who get easily influenced or pressured by the opinions of others. IMO, a mother should have primary say on most of the baby's care in the early weeks and months. If the father can have an independent opinion not formed mainly from what his mother or aunts or sister says, then, that can be also listened to.

I think a baby is so pure and such a reminder of nature's wonder that people can't help going overboard with suggestions. Even in this thread, we could see traces of that. Your post did not at all say anything negative or positive about the choice of breast/bottle, but so many comments poured in on the goodness of breast milk. Your main point (do not judge the woman for breastfeeding/bottle feeding) got overshadowed.

I was mostly lucky to escape such suggestions. But one remains seared in my mind. I had started to exclusively bottle feed my baby, and it was OK by me, my baby, my husband, and pediatrician, and my primary care doctor. I was doing fine mentally and physically. Then, a friend had to try and "help." She actually came over one day, left her work early to drop by, talked to me, and gave me lecture on +ves of breastfeeding, and finally pulled out a bottle of fenugreek/methi capsules designed to increase milk supply. And to my horror, she went on to add, "I had these left over from when Ani was a baby. It has not expired. You can have them." How could anyone give a half-used bottle of capsules to another person! And this was a person who carried her own bedsheets/linen/towels to use in hotels. : )
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Thanks a lot..I always love the way you write..I am very happy that you liked mine.Really, you made my day!!

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Leave Her Alone - Part One

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