Ladies Party

Feeling not so good about myself in understanding people.

We had lot of cultural activities and parties in our society ladies group in the month of January/Feb. Though I have least interest in dancing I too went along and been a part of their programs and also games and party get togethers as I didnt want to feel left out . I was feeling good in their company with so much jokes, laughter and timepass.
Now after all this programs got over, recently they organized a small Birthday party of one lady. Few ladies were seen attending it and some including myself were not invited. Had they not posted pics, i would not have known about the party. I expressed my unhappiness over not inviting and for that 2 ladies personally gave big explanation for keeping it small. I told them they could have avoided posting pics and for that one lady said they wanted to show that they organised a party for their friend.

Analysing the whole episodes, I get the feeling of being used by them. Its like they don't care about the feelings of others. Now next they are planning for womens day party and a picnic afterwards. Would you join them if you were in this situation. I appreciate their enthusiasm in conducting such parties, but when not included I feel so left out. When they want to reduce the cost per head, they would invite everyone.

 

Actually many ladies of the society turn up only on the main day of the program. Many have reasons like job, children, in laws, house work for not joining in the practise sessions that would start from 5 to 10 days before the event. So the ones who are the masterminds in organising , exclude them from all future activities which may or may not be linked to the society. One time refused means always a no is their thinking. They dont bother to call those ladies again for any other fun activity. This attitude of theirs make me think whether i should join them or not.

 

Yes agree its the same.

 

Whose daughter