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Its not an EMA...but is it right?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by heron, Feb 4, 2012.

  1. MyWayNow

    MyWayNow New IL'ite

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    Isnt it is relative ? - i mean the clear conscience. I guess it depends on so many factors - the cultural upbringing, family values, individual personal disposition etc. From these kinda forums on the net I gather that for some people, pre marital sex is one conferred as part of the childrens’ rights. For some, EMAs can be condoned if not right and for some others, they are to be aspired for, as they help spice up life. Following their projection ahead, I guess there are some who would think cohabiting with animals is the in-thing, after all something novel needs to be flaunted for their purported one-upmanship in the evolution of social demographics - a</SPAN>nd they might even come up with links to articles (I bet written by themselves) to sell you their theory of promiscuity, cogently vouching for its the co-halo-ship with Einstein’s theory of relativity. Blessed be the net, akin to the sunshine, it offers equal anonymity to terrorists, peddlers of drugs and promiscuity, and all shaded in between alike, the proponents of such enlightened ideals though few and new, is sincere in efforts to leverage the blessing.
     
  2. SallyR

    SallyR Silver IL'ite

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    You are right, we all have different conscience based on different things. I can only advice based on what I consider right and wrong. To me EMA (physical & emotional) is wrong. Physical EMA is easy to define but emotional one, only the people involved know the real truth. Now if OP is has clear conscience about her actions (even if her conscious is different to mine), then who am I to comment.

    IMO its not the novelty that sets people on different paths but how we interpret things about what we see and hear.

    I was brought up in an environment where pre-marital sex was considered wrong but still I went ahead and had physical relationship with my then bf (now husband), I did what I thought was right for me and never regretted it.

    So as far as I am concerned pre-marital sex between consenting adults are not wrong. I also consider being a homosexual is ok but consider lying with an animal is wrong.

    We disagree on what we consider right and wrong...I think we should leave it at that.
     
  3. anugamit

    anugamit Platinum IL'ite

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    Exactly heron, just ignore him....He is being too frank with you by telling you all this.
     
  4. abcdguy

    abcdguy Silver IL'ite

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    You should contact HR, if he continues. This behavior is bordering on sexual harassment.


     
  5. heron

    heron Platinum IL'ite

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    @ maywaynow Take it as a compliment...but I literally used a dictonary:)
     
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  6. SallyR

    SallyR Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Heron, I know your reply is not meant for me but since MyWayNow commented on my reply I am curious to know if I am missing something...I really don't understand what you mean.
     
  7. blessbabydust

    blessbabydust IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear darl you are not cheating your husband your true love only keeping away from this person ...dont fall for him why does he wants to be your friend ???? once the person had a affection or infactuation for you it cant be reversed ... stay away from him :)
     
  8. flowerlady

    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    The part about having a clear conscience means that the OP is not flirting with the guy and he is misunderstanding her delibrately? But how is he confessing love etc if things are not warming up?
    EMA is an EMA period, stay away from the mess.
    Stop pouring your DHs illness details to others as they may think that you are inviting sympathy/EMA.
    A person who can say all this while his wife is full time pregnant is really low class , crass and repugnant.
    PS- An EMA need not be physical , there is something called emotional infidelity where one is connecting bigtime with someone else other than spouse.
    The spouse is last to know but does get to know ultimately :(
     
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  9. lakvishy

    lakvishy Senior IL'ite

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    Right now you are very clear and not in any wrong. But never test your mind strength. Just steer clear of this person and tell me to stop this dramatic dialogue delivery - Just want to know, you are alive, bull**** !

    Beware .......
     
  10. MyWayNow

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    Groundbreaking realization dawned upon me – I never knew the affection and infatuation were irreversible. This has very many implications, one of them being – “once a cheater, always to be so”. This “irreversible” implies that since the cheater had acquired a certain affinity towards another individual, though with irreverence to propriety / accepted norms /expected behaviour, that individual will never ever lose that affinity/affections to the other.
     

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