Hello! This may be a long post but I feel I should give a little background. I am a white American woman and married a 1st generation Indian-American. I have read a lot of articles, papers, blogs, and message boards to try and learn Indian culture and how to relate to my in-laws. The problem is they always contradict what I have read. So I wanted to come on here to hear from women who are part of Indian culture and can hopefully shed light on something that has been bothering me. My husband and I began to plan our wedding. We have two different faiths and wanted a ceremony that would combine both. I am Christian, while my husband doesn't really know what he is but was raised Hindu. I researched Hindu marriage ceremonies and discovered there were some things that I could not do as they would conflict with my beliefs. I spoke to my husband and he said that they were not important to him so we came up with a combined ceremony that honored both of our traditions without violating the beliefs of the other. However when my MIL read this she threw a fit, she "disowned" her son, and said she would never come to a wedding unless it was Hindu. These arguments continued for months until I was emotionally exhausted and called off having a ceremony and said I would just go to the courthouse. Fast forward a few months. She agrees after speaking with my father to come to the small ceremony we are planning. She and her husband offer to have a dinner at their house to celebrate and a reception in December when all of their family could come. My parents and myself were already looking for places to have a dinner and thought this would be good. My dad told my in-laws he would pay for the dinner but my FIL, said no that he would take care of it. However, they turned it into more than a dinner. They decided that instead of having a reception in December they would throw an mini reception instead of just a dinner( they didn't tell us this was a replacement for December until after the wedding). So..with this news my husband and I paid for everything for this mini reception except the food, chair rental(about 30 chairs), and $200 photographer my BIL hired. We spent almost all of the money we had reserved for our honeymoon on this mini reception. This is where my issue begins. My husband and I received gifts from our friends and from my family. I was completing thank you cards and noticed that there were not any gifts from his family or from any of the family friends who had attended. I asked my husband to check with my FIL to ensure no gifts had been received, I didn't want to be rude and not thank someone for a gift. My FIL told my husband that no one else had given any gifts. We took him at his word and thought it was strange but it didn't bother us. 3 months later we learned that in fact all of the family friends and family had brought gifts and that my in-laws had kept it for themselves. My husband was upset, called his father and his father said "who told you". Then my MIL told me they kept it because it was a burden for us to have it. Her next story was that because I had taken the other gifts without opening them with her she told her husband to lie and say we didn't get anything. Her final story and what she is sticking to is that the gifts were not for us. That they were for them, that in Indian culture the parents of the groom receive all the gifts and that the bride and groom don't get any. My question is, is this true? In Indian culture do all of the gifts go to the grooms parents?