Is this an Abnormal Situation ? - Please answer

dont mind me saying this...but did he ask you to do all this??? NO....and at the same time he is not stopping you from doing all this...you are free to do what you want...so dont complain that he is negating your efforts...he is in a confused state, worried, upset and scared....so dont judge his actions .....am glad ateleast your FIL is a sensible person...who didnt add upto the fire already....rather the is telling him to calm down...

things seem like going to fall in place...just take it slow and stop rushing the patch up effort too...give him time to digest all this and face the consequences of his actions all this while...if you push him to be normal it would be like expecting more than what he can do at this time.