Ilites, You may find this question strange but first let me explain. I have heard and also seen so many couples argue, have fights and some times do not talk for days together over some issues. I can't say what is petty issue or what is a real time big problem. I simply cannot judge other people's issues. May be you have to be in their shoes to feel the problem or must have undergone/experienced that situation to better understand it. My husband and I hardly have any differences. Even if we do on some things the argument.... NO, I cannot call that argument, the discussion over the difference hardly lasts for 10 mins. Either of us sees the other ones point of view and agrees he/she is wrong or we both just keep our opinions to ourselves and move on. We hardly have or had any heated arguments and ultimately one of them getting too mad at the other and the other one apologizing. I don't remember when I had to apologize because I yelled at my husband or my husband apologizing to me for lashing out his tongue at me. I mean, we never had like that situation in our decade of marriage. They say that the more couples argue or fight the more LOVE there is in the relationship. Going by this statement we can say that there is NO LOVE in my relationship with my dh. Please enlighten me on this. Why do they say this and how is it true?