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is sex a important part of HAPPY MARRIED LIFE?

Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by kainaath, Apr 27, 2010.

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  1. kainaath

    kainaath Senior IL'ite

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    Love or SEX ?????

    In a married life... What keeps the relationship alive, Love for the person or just the sex?
     
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    Malavika81 Bronze IL'ite

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    Re: Love or SEX ?????

    Sex is the vehicle thru which you primarily convey your love in a marriage. All the love is meaningless in a marriage if you don't have sex. So they both are very closely knit when it comes to a relationship.
     
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    GiJoe Silver IL'ite

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    Re: Love or SEX ?????

    As Mal said in a married life you need both and if you say you love your spouse and don’t have sex then it will be meaningless.
     
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    BanneyHill New IL'ite

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    Re: Love or SEX ?????

    Love plays an important role while keeping any relation for a long time period so i will say that if you have a love then everything is OK.
     
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    lathaviswa IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: Love or SEX ?????

    LOVE is the power of married life.
     
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    Re: Love or SEX ?????

    At the risk of being a strife, I have come across couples who share a meaningful relationship with love overflowing, but cannot indulge ( due to certain medical conditions) in a physical relationship. As much as I agree that it is a very silly question to ask which keeps the relationship alive, I opine that more than sexual gratification, there are many things that do keep relationships going.

    JMO,
    Arch
     
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    kainaath Senior IL'ite

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    thanks for ur replies guys....and i knew for sum reason that malavika and gijoe wud be the first ones to reply.....deja vu i guess....

    my take on this would be that love is the most important factor for a relationship to be kept alive.. maybe when couples are young they enjoy more of sex, but im thinking more on the longer run terms...what about older or elderly couples...like say our grandparents. I think at elderly age or old age it is the love that counts more over the number of times that one can indulge in sexual pleasures...
     
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    I would say BOTH. One without the other is INCOMPLETE. As Malavika rightly said they both are very closely knit when it comes to a relationship. Just my 'true' and 'bold' answer. :)
     
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    You need BOTH for a healthy and successful marriage/relationship. Oh that tune from Married with Children comes to mind with Al Bundy:)

    Tnx,
    OOPALL!
     
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    Kainaath, when people get old and become grandma and grandpa, their relationship lasted that long because they had a healthy sexual relationship when they were young. Or that relationship would not have gone that far.

    In a relationship(be it marriage or civil union or live in couples or whatever), sex is a very vital aspect that sustains it and sex is the primary expression of love in a relationship and you need that fuel to keep your relationship go the distance. You need to be physically desired in a relationship or you might as well marry a lump of tofu. Anyone who tells you that sex is not a vital aspect in a relationship is fooling you and fooling themselves, if they really believe in that nonsense.

    We have bonds of love with several people in our lives...friends, parents, siblings et al..but your relationship partner is the only one you have sex with and it is the basis of your relationship. Without the sex, you are two strangers living together currying favours to each other in exchange for goods and services. He pays your bills and your do his laundry and cooking in return.

    A man and a woman relationship ( or even other alternative relationships) cannot exist without solid sexual foundation. All that love and attention grandma and grandpa are showing to each other at 70 is because they had a healthy sexual relationship during their prime years. As hard as it is to imagine, trust me..... grandpa did not stay married to grandma for 50 years because she makes the best samosas and Bombay Aloo or she is the best in folding clothes or they both have the same taste in music and movies.
     
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