It seems in USA, Indians are considered most beautiful. Their manners are kind, their skin is gleaming, they wear pretty colors. As soon as they go to India for matrimonial, they are made to felt they are most ugly and everyone is doing them a favor by going around the mandap 7 times. When things go south, they are stigmatized and told they must go for therapy. But what happens to the evil loser who trampled upon them? As soon as they say sorry, everyone believes them and tells the victim to reconcile. I used to feel that person should get married, then get intimate. But I hear so many horror stories about women being trapped in marriage and being treated worse than animal (dogs can stay in bed with their owners) I am thinking if lady has job and savings and less likely to have babies, why not be in relationship with an American man she is attracted to. True, he can leave her at the drop of a hat (which is better than being stuck in a bad marriage or having long drawn out divorce). On the other hand he may stay with her till the end of time. My brain says - why can't lady with jobs, savings, and low chance of having babies have live-in relationship with a man she is attracted to and who respects her My heart says - if this man respects her so much, why doesn't he give her marriage Again, this is stream of thought.