Hi There, Am new to this forum, and want to say hi to one and all...I came here coz I need some suggestions on how to handle my mom, who has come to visit me for the first time after two years of marriage... This is the first time she has actually spent time with my husband and me after our marriage and so she is just getting to know my husband, in person , rather than talking on the phone..Now my problem is this.. I am Tamilian and if there are any Tamilians on board here, they will know exactly what I am talking about.. My mom, like other MIL's does not refer to my husband, her son-in-law as "avaru" or "mapillai"..Instead she prefers to call him "Athu" or "It"..She refers to him a hundred times a day using the same word "it" , when she talks to me.. I did not mind it initially, maybe once or twice , but now she is constantly using the word, "It" and it is REALLLY bothering the hell out of me..She says stuff like "Ask it if it wants to eat" or, "Where is it"? Its realllyyyyyyyy irritating!! Now I am stuck , cos I just dont know how to tell her to stop it, because she is a over-sensitive person and the fact she is now a guest in my home, also prevents me from telling her off.. I really want her to stop, cos I am just plain fed up of my husband being referred to as "it", as though he is a cow or a dog or some other kind of animal... Ladies, please advise... Thanks..