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Indian Women- Are They Less Assertive?

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  1. jayasala42

    jayasala42 IL Hall of Fame

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    A boy student from a French university was asked to describe the

    girl he would like to have as his life partner.His answer was:

    "The girl should have British complexion, Irish smile,

    French curves, Spanish walk, Italian hair, Egyptian eyes,

    Greek nose, American teeth, Vienna voice, Japanese laughter,

    Swiss hands, Scandinavian legs, Chinese foot,

    and Australian breast and the Jewish brain"

    She should know to cook like a French ,maintain

    the house like a German, dress like an American and

    BE OBEDIENT LIKE AN INDIAN."

    What an impression about Indian girls!

    I hope the pursuit will be never ending until and unless

    a special Brahma offers to complete the WONDER PROJECT.

    This advertisement made me contemplate.
    "Choosing" a Life Partner?

    Do we "choose" or are we fated to get? And choosing is only a "Maayaa"?

    With all the ideal transcontinental, transregional and
    utopian qualities, such a bride should be in the world of idealism
    or only in imagination; and no girl has ever got an "ideal" husband too.

    Nevertheless the desires of human mind are sky-high with
    no limits to its height. Does that idealism of the student
    consider only the Indian wife being obedient (submissive?).

    I would remind all knowledgeable readers about the
    Shakespearean play, The Taming of the Shrew. What does the
    character Petruchio do to "tame" the "shrewish" Kate?
    The tendency of keeping women "under one's thumb"
    is not Indian (alone). The play also brings forth the truth
    that no woman is ever a shrew? She can "change"
    or rather she can bring out her true personality in
    such circumstances as Petruchio develops for her.

    Was the "godly" Sita obedient or assertive? She
    cast away the plesures of the palace in her own
    unhindered choice of her forest life for 14 years
    along with Raama, but also spurned the same pleasure
    to teach a lesson to the people of Ayodhya that
    they cannot get away with wild accusations.
    Was Kannagi submissive or assertive? And the one
    among the five ideal women, the Paanchaali? Every
    Indian woman in truth represents these venerable
    personalities without any advertisement or public
    proclamation. Within their apparent obedience lies
    in deep their assertiveness, assertiveness of the
    superior innate quality of chastity, truth, devotion
    and above all sacrifice. The westerners (and following them, we too)
    should not judge our women by outward appearance
    alone. In our school book there was a story of Pearl. In the end,
    the lesson says: Let us not judge the oyster by its outward
    appearance alone; it produces one of the greatest attractive
    and valuable pearl!

    Jayasala42
     
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  2. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    I happened to see responses for your post in link
    You like your partner to be.........
    This post is an extension nearly after eight years.
    I trust many responses or feedbacks on the way.
    Thanks &regards.
    Happy holiday season & MMXXIII.
     
  3. Balajee

    Balajee IL Hall of Fame

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    While for centuries the weight of radition has made many Indian women submissive, we just can't generalize. Even when they did not have the advantage of modern education, many Indian women asserted themselves and stepped out of the domestic threshold to prove their mettle. It all depends on individuals the lind of atmosphere in which they grew up and peer pressure among a load of other factors.
     
  4. Thyagarajan

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    Indeed.
    Vai mu Kodak Nayaki Ammal is an excellent example . In 30s or 40s she excelled in tamil
    • LITERATURE & Wrote many inspiring articles in her own monthly magazine Jagan Mohini. Despite in joint orthodox family and married since age of five she never went to school, She turned to be a journalist, successful writer publisher, orator and even occupied board room. She led crusades for social causes and to set right inequities in lower strata.
     
  5. Balajee

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    Do you know she was illiterate Tyagu sir? She wrote her first play without even knowing how to writr! She dictated it to a friend. I became such a hit that she was forced top learn to read and write, Literacy broke her cocoon and from it emerged a multifaceted personality, a novelist (She ws one of the pioneers of thriller writing in Tamil), playwright ,m journalist, social activist, freedom fighter,musician (She was a composer and brilliant singer whose singing at Congress meetings attracted huge crowds).
     
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  6. Thyagarajan

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    True. I heard about her from her lanky grandson kasturi rangan who studied with me pre university class in 1959-60. He took me to his residence "Jaganmohini" at Triplicane and shown showcases brimming with வை மு கோ 's works and her old albums in bw snaps showing madam with then prominent public figures.
    Thanks for nostalgia.
     
  7. HariLakhera

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    Our religious scriptures are full of verses where the woman has to be submissive to her husband in all circumstances. But the condition of women's fights for their rights was equally tough. Women in the USA got voting rights after a long struggle. They still do not have a woman President.
    But things are changing all over. The education of girls plays a big role.
     
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