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I'm Going Crazy

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by zeppelingirl, Oct 9, 2017.

  1. zeppelingirl

    zeppelingirl Silver IL'ite

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    hi ladies, new problem.

    My husband is in a foreign place for a business trip. We didnt speak for the past 3 days, 1 day I missed to attend the call, since he will be available only at same time in the morning hours everyday. Another 2 days he didnt call saying busy. Today morning, I called him the usual time but he didnt attend so I thought he slept. But I found in facebook his last activity as 9 hours back, which means he was awake 3+ hours of our usual time. but he didnt return my calls or messages.

    I told him the story and asked his facebook password, he hesitated to give me first saying since I asked him with no trust he was not interested in sharing me the password.

    But I somehow got his password after a long arguement, and found him online when I was trying to open his facebook account. I guess he deleted the stuff from his facebook in the meantime, since if the person has nothing in facebook he would not have logged in when I was demanding his password.

    And I found no messages in his chat box recently, and the login session for the day I suspect was cleared. How is it possible? He denies being in facebook late night. Does that mean he is doing something wrong behind my back?

    Few days back I also found him online in skype when no one in india would be awake at that time. He only calls his parents from skype. When I demanded for his skype ID, he hasnt shared it with me yet. What is his deal?

    Also few months backs, while he was coming back from office late night. I called his mobile and it was busy, also he didnt call back. So I asked him why didnt he call back when he clearly see me calling while on this other call. He said he didnt get my call. So I checked his mobile call log, he has cleared this other call he was doing at that time. I confronted him, but he kept on saying he only called his dad, which I know was a few minutes before this call I suspect. He denied what happened and finally I gave up trusting nothing might be wrong.

    Here I am not suspicious becos he was online in facebook at midnight, I get this bad feeling bcos he couldnt attend my call or messages but he was active in facebook 3+ hours later, which clearly means he ignored my calls and saw my messages in notifications. On top of that he purposely deleted login session and God knows whatelse, may be messages if he is doing stuff behind my back.

    Also about that suspicious mobile call he cleared from call log, he has complete freedom to speak to whoever at whatever time. But why does it look fishy to me?

    Am I not being matured here.

    Now he is angry on me for asking him passwords, didnt return my calls or messages after that and kept his mobile internet turned off. I really dunno what to do with his childish behaviour.
     
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  2. Nonya

    Nonya Platinum IL'ite

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    Going ? :tonguewink: It reads like you had arrived a while back.
     
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  3. zeppelingirl

    zeppelingirl Silver IL'ite

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    Seriously :tonguewink:

    Urban Dictionary: going crazy

    I'm kinda depressed now. Which became pretty usual after marriage. He is punishing me for the mistake he did
     
  4. Nonya

    Nonya Platinum IL'ite

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    Google the question "who is responsible for my happiness?" and read some of the answers.
     
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    DDream Finest Post Winner

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    Sorry to say you created this mess. You know how you behaved. What you do if your husband act this way. Do you like to be monitored 24h by your spouse. No one like these kind of suspicious/childish behaviour for whatever reason. It will spoil both yours peace of mind. I think one need to respect one's personal space. I believe you could have handled this situation in a mature way.

    If you suspect some thing behind your back. What you have to do.You have to relax a bit and behave as if nothing happened. Then monitor him in whatever way you like. Unless you don't have any evidence don't create a scene. Now he will be very careful in hiding everything from you. Use your brain dear. Think well with a calm mind before you act or speak

    I believe trust=love in marriage. Once it is lost it is very difficult to love one with whole heart or lead a happy life
     
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    ashneys Platinum IL'ite

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    What kinda mistakes ?
     
  7. zeppelingirl

    zeppelingirl Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks for the advice. I was angry only bcos he didnt call me the usual timing or attend my calls but was in facebook some 3 hours later I called him. If he is acting like he slept he should have maintained it.

    FYI.. My husband is snooping my mobile 24x7.. I dunno how he does that. But he even knows when I open another chat box in whatsapp when I chat with him, and asks me with whom I'm chatting bla bla. Then I should send hims a proof telling its a friend of mine or family taking a screenshot. Im not the one who is doing that to him. I give him his space. I never even asked his password for any social sites until now. But he knows all my passwords and whatever.

    But I shouldnt have acted fast. That was my mistake. I realised that.
     

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