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  1. indubalram

    indubalram Platinum IL'ite

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    Hi all,
    I have been very old member here and had posted my details and asked for advices. You all have given me advices and helped me a lot.
    Today I’m reaching out to you all for yet another incident that is making me feel v depressed and angry.
    Recently my husband had 50 year anniversary celebration. All wife’s had accompanied their husband for the ball room party. But my husband didn’t invite me at all. When I asked him he says he didn’t know that wife’s are invited. I can’t believe this Bc he always does this to me by excluding me.
    I’m very upset about this. I feel v disregard. Is my feeling right? Please advice
     
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  2. anika987

    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    Is it an office party?

    I dont know about your relationshio with your husband but from what you said..he has done this before.

    Does he always disregard you for everything?
    Any home matters also?

    How is he generally? Is he nice to you always and this is just few office parties?

    Can we have more details if you do not mind..
    Just for the benefit of doubt..

    But as for your feeling and you feeling bad about it..anyone in your place will feel
    Left out.nothing wrong about how you feel
     
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    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    Yes for holistic approach to hand you convincing answer, one needs some more data. @anika987 is pertinent here.

    It could be due to distrust or and mistrust between celebrating males and OP's DH. If some rogues in that gathering can cause trouble in general and to someone’s spouse in particular, it is safe not to take spouse to a place entailing risk .

    It happens. It could be that Dh for courtesy sake need to attend such office colleague’s party. But in that case, one expects DH to take spouse into confidence. In that event, some spouses are unhappy to grant permission to DH to attend such hullabaloo ballroom parties.

    God Bless (such) families!
     
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    Let him know that this behavior is unacceptable and going forward, keep in touch with colleagues wife’s so you know whats going on in the office. Let him know that if you are excluded from future events, you will conclude that he’s having an extramarital affair.
    & then for your own peace, just let go this time. Work on yourself meanwhile.
    Change your mindset. Put yourself in a position where he yearns to be part of you & not otherwise. Do things you like. Make friends & keep busy. Do volunteering.
     
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    Should I walk out of the house and live separate
     
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    How do I change my mindset! I’m a working. I have a daughter who recently got married. My work keeps me busy. Should I live separate?
     
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    So you think he doesn’t like to get with me. He feels uncomfortable to be with me? Please reply
     
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    Ya I don’t have any friends . How do I get friends
     
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    I work and I use my money for my expenses. I don’t spend on his card. He doesn’t help me in anything.
     

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