dear friends, pls help me solve this martial problem' i am married to a professional for last 4 yrs.thou he is very good human but i feel not so good husband&father. in beginning of our marriage he had his own practise.we could barely meet our expenses but as we were newly married we took this as godsend as less w ork so more time to spend with each other.he went for some joint venture with another professionl but it did not work out as he says other person had some ego issues. then in 2nd yr of our marriage i went for job &next mth he too went for job.all was rosy moreso as i found myself pregnant.due to med reasons i left job after my 4th mth&so did he because he could not get along with his boss.all mine & his parents begging to reconsider his decsion fell on deaf ears.still i was enjoying my pregancy so i did not make much issue out of it.he again tried to establish his practise.he went for a course to add to his skills & spent our all savings for it.in end this course too did not help . then after the birth of my son (c section with financial help from my parents)i got really worried about our future.as we did not had any family support so i too could not leave my son for job.i started having sleepless nights & did my best to minimise expenses like firing the maid,getting immunisation for child from govt hospital. his practise failed & he joined another firm to help meet our expenses.again he left after 2mth even without collecting his pay with same excuse of the other person having ego probs.i was very stressed but could not do anything. then finally when our son was six mths old he went for job.we had spent the last mths taking loan from ever available sources.he worked with same company which he had left when i was preg.now he had no issue with the boss.here he worked for nearly 14 mths.slowly we repaid our previous loans. as things looked stable we started acquring asserts which meant loan again. then he changed his job going for the one which required 2 hrs travelling.i tried to dissuade him as i knew he hates travelling even thou the pay was double still as usual he went for it.he hated every day of it& resigned after 6 mths without even getting a new one. we fought nearly daily but thankfully while within notice period he got this present oversees assignment which again i tried to dissuade him to accept as it is in one of those african countries where nobody recommends u go. he joined it & i came here after 2 mths.now six mths into job he has again preponded his contract for 1 yr thou the contract was originally for 2 yrs.here we have all comforts plus excellent pay.now when i ask him to reconsider his decision & complete his 2 yrs contract so that after paying for all the loans we took in india we are left with some money for our future.he accuses me of being money minded & even says that its his life so he takes whatever decision he likes.i am really very stressed thinking what future holds for me & my son.i feel he is very unstable . he does not think twice about us before taking such imp decisions.life is so long will this pattern continue or do i have to change my mindset.by the way he is aquariuos . now u know the history.so what do u suggest what should do.