Dear ILites, Today was my daughter's (grade 2) PTM session. She had made ample silly mistakes in all subjects, resulting in her marks going down. She could have easily done much better. She was bright and focused earlier, and nowadays, it's a hassle dealing with her on any task. Of late, she has started doing talks like, 'wish I am a couple with that X guy,' we are boyfriend girlfriend, middle finger, shaadi, etc, with her friend whom she considers a best friend. But the girl is very shrewd. For instance, the first time I met her, She asked is **** your surname & what's your caste? my daughter is too innocent for any such talks. We don't allow her to watch TV alone. No Bollywood, crappy serials, etc..only selected youtube channels or Disney movies for her. I also don't watch any Bolly regional movies in her presence. One more bad quality she has picked up is taking others things either out of greed or out of revenge. She cries a lot and is hyper-emotional when confronted..telling twisted tales etc. I have tried all ways, speaking kindly, telling moral stories, and getting angry, but nothing has worked till now. They changed her section this year, and last year, she was too good. So, I expressed my concerns about my daughter's overall change in attitude and how I feel my daughter is slowly and steadily going in the wrong direction to the teacher. The convo went like this. Me: Maam, my kid was not like this earlier but has been picking up some not-so-good qualities of late. I feel this has aggravated after her change in section. She's not able to focus well on her studies as she was earlier. She has made so many silly mistakes. Please monitor her association with other kids, as she gets easily influenced by others. Teacher: She is very talkative in class. Wherever I make her sit, she keeps talking and spoils the other child. Me: Then kindly make her sit in the front Teacher: that's not possible. We rotate seating places. (TO my daughter) Can I make you sit alone? Me: No, don't make her sit alone. Make her sit close to the board so that she doesn't get distracted much. In fact, she has told me about children (did not name them) who say unwanted stuffs (the stuff I mentioned earlier). So how come my daughter is spoiling other children? Teacher: (To my daughter) You should share with me, beta..why do you tell mom? It's not possible to happen in school. She might have picked it up from somewhere. You are busy, so you are not able to give sufficient attention to her. The kids here are really good and bright. Me: She may find it difficult to share it with you as she is scared of teachers. Though I am busy, I ensure that we talk about everything on a daily basis. Please let me know the students who performed better than her, who are focused, etc, so that you can make her sit with them. Teacher: She names some children and says they perform very well. But, she spoils them also. Goes on to tell her version of stories, blaming my daughter on two different occasions. Inspite of knowing the instances, I lost it, did not justify my daughter's stand, instead started looking at my daughter, saying I am disappointed, baby. Because of this newly acquired habit of my daughter taking other's things and lying to me, I have started having trust issues in believing what she says. I started advising her you should not do like this etc..My kid kept quiet, and so was my H, who was also sitting calmly. I signed off with no definite conclusions from the talk except for an unintended blaming session of my daughter. I was irritated and started talking continuously about morals, etc, till we reached home and came to the office. Now, slowly and steadily, guilt is engulfing me. I am in a position where I am not even able to take her to any extracurricular classes she enjoys. Ever since the park incident, which I shared sometime back, I have stopped her from going to the park as well. Children outside are so notorious, clever, and smart. I don't want my daughter to get deviated at this stage as it will become very difficult for me to get her back. It's good to say marks don't matter, but for a middle-class family in India like mine, we don't have anything except education to sustain ourselves. I made the mistake of not going to developed nations when I had plenty of opportunities with fully paid scholarships and a handsome salary during my prime age. I said I will work for my nation and will stay close to my parents. But, when I see my career graph as well as my bank balance with zero slope and stagnation, I understand how wrong I was. But, still, I have to go to work to maintain our current way of living. Inspite of all this, as a mom, I want my daughter to be focused, bold, truthful, and happy. That's it. Now, I am scared of how the teacher will behave with my kid when she goes to school tomorrow. ..