I am hurt

hi kavithavel,
dont worry dear. everything will change in a span of time. try not to think of your in laws. my prayers are always with you cheerup:thumbsup

 

Kavitha thanks, I always adore you & Blessed primarily for your iconic patience.
You're doing an extra ordinary job of maintaining so many babies at the same time and still in a sane mindset.

Yes you really need a break so that your worth can be assimilated if at all by the lesser minds... pls keep it going.. AUG is and still not that far...keep spirit high... For some people the complaint registers need a renewal on a daily basis.. however you really cant let them hurt you cos they're used to a specific behaviour.

Is it possible to renew ties with family and brother? It shall be of great help, find atleast brother on chat or facebook.. else take a vacation to a close friend or family. Does your office has a retiring room? For me I reach this stage when am highly sleep deprived, take a nap of 10-20 mins at work before getting back to the jungle.

 

Dear Kavitha

You are surely the best DIL. Happy to know about your nature. You are surely a good human . Even i am in the same boat. I am in my 7th month of pregnancy but still doing all the work right from morning tea. Dont worry pa , one day they will surely realise . You are right you need a break.
I always think about one thing. How nice the family will be when they also behave and love the same way we do. Both can benefit...Guess we must pity for their ignorance.

I understand that these memories will surely hurt you and you need strong will to overcome all these.
I wish good things come ahead.....

Vaishnavi

 

Hi Kavitha

A big hug to you girl! I wish I had even a fourth of the patience and maturity you have!
I just have one thing to say. My MIL also had a love marriage and married into a caste 'lower' (as society defines) than her family. Her parents never came to her marriage and her sisters and brother treat her like **** even today. I feel very bad for her, as I know at that you always crave your maternal family! I only say this....especially...after watching her going to them and getting hurt over and over again...in spite of making so much effort, if your maternal side has never responded, please let go. The only thing that will keep happening, otherwise for the rest of your life is they will keep wounding you till you completely break!
Also, please tell your husband. Let him know that you do not have their support, and it means that you expect a little extra from him. Just like he is expecting you take care of his mother (and her mother!phew!) This is the least he can do. He MUST know how much you have given up to maintain the sanity in the household and not break up the family.
Good luck to you Kavitha, and hope god continues to give you the strength to cope with everything!

 

Kavitha, no am not bugged but amazed on the amount of juggling many of us do cos we try to fix everything and everyone around us in an amicable manner.

I shall tell you my source of inspiration, this was a lady who stayed right opposite to our house, had a 4 yr old, then delivered twins, had a love marriage and hence disowned by both the homes, DH on a US project ever since twins were 3 mnth. She single handedly managed 3 kids when awake from 6 am to 10 pm in the night along with driving to and fro 15 kms everyday and working in office. She left elder one to school, twins with a neighbour aunty who shall later cut veggies for her in eve. I was not having babies then and I shall see her placing 1 child after the other as young as 4 mnth into the car and running around.
Later her husb joined her when her twins were 9-10 mnth and he met with a horrible accident and was in caste & screws... now she had 4 babies, he soon left for US for another project, I offered her help, she appreciated and said.. let me see how much can GOD test me.

She never shed a tear but was an ICON of woman power to me, who alone celebrated every birthday in that house and to top it, shifted to another house after a massive fight with the owner all alone.. still no family/ friend came.

Many people tell me that God knows whom to test and treat life as an increased level of gaming difficulty, easy lives are like starter level1 and very few make to top levels.