husbands illegal life

Meera,

Yes, there are men/women who act to be in love to get their needs and wishes done. The sooner you accept the reality the better it is for you. You need to proceed cautiously in future with the lessons learnt. Confronting and arguing with such people get you nowhere. Avoid any contacts with this guy and move on with your life to find peace and happiness.
Good luck to you for your future.

 

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING dear.

Meera, I haven't read any other's post. But I'm so glad you did what you did. You did the RIGHT thing of walking away from this nasty guy :thumbsup. NEVER EVER go back to this guy no matter who pleads. His parents plead but you are the one who is going to stay and live with this guy. And when he was so dishonest in the first few months(which is supposed to be an exciting period after wedding), as days pass and the charm of new wife fades, he is going to NOT want to change at all.

Well.. Sex, marriage and kid is not ALL life and you can live without him (when you had lived without him even when he was with you, when he showed no love, affection). So when you say you had 5 years of courtship period and got married 10 months ago, so during that period he has had an affair with this lady as well. So how many woman is this guy seeing at the same time? :rant Isn't it a shame on him to be like that.

You say he is controlling, no affection, a nasty affair and all these are NO-NO signs. Even if you make up your mind and live with him, there's no guarantee that this guy won't ditch you again. And you'll not have peace of mind living with a betrayer like this.

You deserve much better life than this dear. It's so fortunate that you have a job and supporting parents. So cheer up girl. You have a beautiful life ahead of you.

 

Hi Meera,
There are no words to console u.You should have thought about this before marriage itself.Even if he is possessive he cannot limit or control u for very simple things.
Now it is too late.I think he married u only because u are rich and employed.He has no love for u.Why should u waste ur life by rejoining him to change him.No chance.Forget this as a bad dream.Live happily and let him know that u are very happy.Don't leave ur discipline at any cost.Your discipline will give more respect from others than any thing else.
DONOT WASTE YOUR TEARS FOR A WORTHLESS PERSON.(do u have child)
Regards,
Hemalatha.

 

BRAVO!!!!!

For taking a Bold step....no matter what please know that you did the right thing by walking out on that disgusting excuse for a human being.

I have seen this one thing happen again and again....a Cheater like the guy you married will always try and prevent you from getting close to anyone else and will doubt your every move...coz they fear you will decieve them, just as they are deceving you now!!!

So never go back to him, infact see if you can get a financial settlement from him for cheating on you and making your life miserable!!! He dosent have money you say; this is the best way to hit him where it hurts!!!

Remember...once a cheater ...always a cheater!!!....Always!!

Again kudos to you...you are an fine example of a strong willed, independant woman!!

 

hi meera,

Really i got tears in my eyes while i read ur story. Actually the same situation was there to my frnd also (lady), she left her husb for 4-5 months and somehow her parents and boys parents came to a decision of not to spoil their life as they also faught for their marraige (having 6yrs luv each other),
but here also they got in the same way like u (husb having affair in office vth sumbody), now they r living happily after all discussions together both families.
so as a boy i shdnt tell this tat most of the boys r like the sameway today(telling luv but it was only attraction these days).
In my case also i was in luv vth a girl for 6yrs, but in their family they house-arrested her and sent her to us by making marriage to her.
now im working in chennai still not married , but ok nzyoing my lie.

so i think u better try to talk to their parents along vth ur parents and get it solved....

for every prob there was a solution in the world... all d best...!!

 

u might have got control on him initially only, u have given him too much chance of liberty, so he got another girl for enjoyment (generally boys mentality).
as now u r in a depressed mood, u will be thiniking of tat one only(i will not go ther and live with him). Think slowly and get a correct decision, bcoz the same case was happend for my frnd also so tat only im tellin, otherwise i cant tell like that na??
anyway think twice or thrice... b4 u take a final decision!!

 

Meera,
Dont ever think of going back to him dear.This man will not change in his life.Once a cheater always a cheater.He proved it with getting involved with more than one girl.He never loved you and used you for the money you brought in.
Meera ,I totally disagree with Bharathireddi.I disagree that this is the "boys" mentality

I believe you were with a wrong guy who had "NO MORALS" in life.
But there are lots of guys out there who will not go wrong atleast with "infidelity" kind of issues.