I feel really heartbroken about one of my cousins situation. She lives in US with her husband. She recently lost her sibling(unmarried), and due to the covid situation could not go home. It was terrible, because they were really close. After a customary few days, her in-laws (who were in India) and husband wanted her to observe all vrats and poojas at home. She has to, was their argument, for the good of the family. Barely able to function, she just went along, not having the spirit to even fight back. I am filled with indignant rage. Is this still the norm, is this how women are even nowadays? I know even in my mom's generation they were like this. But even now? Do they still not observe any mourning and do all poojas in their house - even if they are a nuclear family? How is a woman to carry herself when she is so undervalued in the very family she is supposed to nurture and build?