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Husbands - Do they live a “balanced colorful” life?

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  1. Orange

    Orange New IL'ite

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    I am a homemaker, married, with kid (son 2 yrs. old)

    My husband never thinks about a balanced life between home & work. He never shows attention in any of the household works (“Household” means not cooking, cleaning, washing apart from this there are so…….. many maintenance tasks). We hardly spend time together. No holidays, so no trips. :-(

    Yes, I believe, he faces a hectic position at work, with no scheduled timings. His mobile phone screams 24x7. :bang

    Rarely he gets weekend holidays, which he spend most of the time in front of TV along with his 24x7 mobile. Rant

    I am able maintain the work alone, (which he is supposed to do) but this seems to be awful and I really face a stressful life. :cry:

    There are few people who organize their life and work peacefully & colorfully.
    I want to learn the trick of “Balanced Colorful Life". Can any one suggest?
    Is there any one else with similar trouble?
     
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  2. rya

    rya Silver IL'ite

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    Re: Husbands - Do they live a “balanced colorful” life?

    hi orange,
    i can understand what u r trying to say..Usually husbands do that..there are exceptions unusually..Generally,husbands ,due to their work,expect their wives to be pleasent always and to have a peaceful environment when they return back to house..iam also having the problem..and iam studying actually,and doing masters in studies ..since iam not in house,i don't feel much about the issue..when i was in house i suffered like u. And,i do all house works after returning back from college.i used to tell my husband always and remind him about house work, whenever he finds time and he will try to do it when he is free ...Better,u can talk openly what are all ur expectations with ur husband personally,so that,atleast he can try to fulfill what u need..But see to that the discussion does not end in misunderstanding..if nothing works,u have to take it lightly,and divert ur attention..no other go..because,when i was in house,i did like that..be cool..don't worry..
    thanks
     
  3. Shilpa77

    Shilpa77 Senior IL'ite

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    Re: Husbands - Do they live a “balanced colorful” life?

    Orange,

    It is a not a smooth ride, but that is reality and most of us live through it, be it a working wife or a home maker. It ain't makes any difference to men and they cannot be blamed if work demands all their time.

    Scenaio described in your post is more or less similar to mine, i've learnt to sail through it.

    May be you can hire a reliable person as cook or a maid to help you during the day time at home, so that you attend to the outdoor stuff...something like that..

    But try to go out on vacation sometime, that will recharge you up!..
     
  4. sunkan

    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    Re: Husbands - Do they live a “balanced colorful” life?

    dear orange,Bow
    this is the lifestyle now so it is better to come to terms fast because the more you feel low this will sap the energy u have for even normal work, start taking things into hand organise in such a manner u have sometime for self and enjoy doing what u love very much..husband is a part of life not the very life, so tackle it like that like u need to water ur garden so that they are alive and thriving like wise his needs are in your hand now due to situations many a time we see men writing if it had not been for my wife i would not had handled these pressures easily and for all it might be he may mention this in the office or to friends, so please bear with it and god has bestowed us with enough energy to tackle only the mind should be lively to see the change..sunkan
     
  5. Orange

    Orange New IL'ite

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    Yes.

    "The only person you can change is yourself ". I started believing this fact.
    Nowadays I count my blessings instead of my problems. Any way thanks for the response!
     
  6. Orange

    Orange New IL'ite

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    :exactly: "The only person I can change is, myself "
    I started believing this fact. Nowadays I count my blessings instead of my problems. Any way I thank you all for the response! But still I am waiting for the tips on "balanced life" which I can suggest my husb to some extent.

    :thankyou2:
     
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  7. eternalbliss

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    Re: Husbands - Do they live a “balanced colorful” life?

    It is good to be selfless,but at times we end up paying a price for being nice and have to to deal with the consequences.Life is demanding,but it is as much to us as it is to our spouses.We all play different roles during a day ,a wife, a mother,an employee,and those who dont have the privilage of having maids and cooks we become those too.A day passes by when we do all these without questioning or complaining,but when we question why we have to do it alone,then we end up getting into discussions and arguments.That doesnt help.
    Although it may sound weird,i feel it is better to do it alone and take the full credit for it and enjoy that feeling than ask for help.
     
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    eternalbliss New IL'ite

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    Re: Husbands - Do they live a “balanced colorful” life?

    It is good to be selfless,but at times we end up paying a price for being nice and have to to deal with the consequences.Life is demanding,but it is as much to us as it is to our spouses.We all play different roles during a day ,a wife, a mother,an employee,and those who dont have the privilage of having maids and cooks we become those too.A day passes by when we do all these without questioning or complaining,but when we question why we have to do it alone,then we end up getting into discussions and arguments.That doesnt help.
    Although it may sound weird,i feel it is better to do it alone and take the full credit for it and enjoy that feeling than ask for help.It always help when you talk to someone...a friend and get it out of your system.Tommorow is another day!
     
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    Anandchitra IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: Husbands - Do they live a “balanced colorful” life?

    Dear Orange
    Just saw this thread. being married for 24 years now i think i am qualified to say something. Todays world is very very hectic and its actually round the clock work. I stay at homw so my dh has the extra work of making sure all our needs are met. He too has to work 24/7. In my part I am very supportive of him. Its a pleasure for me to cook what he likes to do all my household chores and anything that needs to be done. I am also behind my kid making him study etc. there really is no TRICK here. i always feel both partners have to do their lot in life . so do what you do in your household to the best of your ability and be supportive. my humbleMy 2cents
     

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